Category: Relationships

Relationships

Who you fall in love with is destined by fate. While we can plan for most aspect of our lives, when it comes to love the best made plans can fall to pieces. Often emotions take over and you find you are no longer in control. The heart wants what the heart wants and sometimes the heart gets what the heart wants, and yet relationships fail.

Sometimes the excitement is all in the chase and once the prize is won the excitement diminishes and complacency sets in. People begin taking each other for granted, passions wains…. Often times relationships fail because people don’t take the time to try to make it work. Like everything else, in order to be a success, relationships take work.

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Is True Love Always Forever

Do you believe that if you truly love someone it means that you will love them no matter what? Now I know people have mixed views about what true love entails however one must be quick to understand that a healthy relationship involves two people having mutual love and respect for one another.  It should never be a one-sided thing so don’t fall for that trap where a partner hurts you and then tell you that if you truly love  you would forgive him.  How about him loving you enough not to hurt you in the first place?

The belief that true love last forever and it is worth fighting for is one of the reason why women remain in abusive relationship hoping that the more love they show the abusive partner, the more likely it is that he will change. This is a belief that often leads to disappointment for no amount of love that you show him will make him change. He has to feel that deep love inside for you and respect you enough not to hurt you. They change that you seek can only come from him. You can’t make him change and you should never settle for abuse. It is okay not to love your abuser. It is okay to walk away.

Happy Relationships

Nothing makes for a happier relationship than to have:  a man who understands himself and his role. A man who understands that life comes with responsibilities and it is not always going to be smooth sailing. A man who will ride with the tide and be a tower of support when the waters of life gets turbulent. One who will not back down nut stand tall and give support to his woman.

His woman in return should get to know his likes, his dislikes, his dreams, and his aspiration. Give him love and support and make him feel appreciated. Because he is a man doesn’t mean he doesn’t want to feel appreciated nor does it mean that he doesn’t want to feel loved too. If he gives you his all you should give him your all. Love and cherish each.

Who is the Boss Now??

After Brian proposed to Jill, his father took him to one side. “Son, when I first got married to your mother, the first thing I did when we got home was take off my pants. I gave them to your mother to put them on, which she did. They were huge on her and she said she wouldn’t wear them because they were too large. I said to her, “Of course they are too big for you, I wear the pants in this family and I always will. Ever since that day son we have never had a single problem.”

Brian took his dad’s advice and did the same thing to his wife on his wedding night. Then, Jill took off her panties and gave them to Brian. “Try these on,” she said. Brian went along with it and tried them on but they were far too small. “What’s the point of this I can’t get into your panties,” said Brian. “Exactly,” Jill replied. “And if you don’t change your attitude, you never will!

He or She Will Change

People have this serious misconception that a partner will change once they get married. After all marriage is a serious thing isn’t it?  So if a person take a vow to love and cherish you it means that they will even if the person was cheating on you and betraying your trust prior to the marriage. No they might not change. It is wrong to assume that and if you marry a person their behavior will suddenly change. If you marry someone knowing that they are being unfaithful to you what motivation is there for them to change. If you accepted the behavior isn’t it telling the person that you are okay with it? Decide beforehand what you will or will not accept from a relationship. Don’t start a marriage on a rocky foundation where trust is an issue. A person who is not dedicated to ensuring your happiness will only bring you sorrow.

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Relationships

One of the biggest problems in relationship is that we usually do not have a clear understanding of what we want in a partner or define clearly our expectations. Many people are so smitten by physical appearance that they pay little attention to the person’s character. The end result is that we often find out too late that all that glistens is not gold and that looks can be deceiving. So before you make the biggest mistake of your life get to know as much as possible about the character of the person you are about to become involved with. Never assume that because the person is physically attractive he or she is a perfect match for you.

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Why Women Keep Silent

In many relationship a woman who is not being treated right  may keep silent. It is not because she isn’t aware that things aren’t going the way she would like them to. She stays silent in order to keep the peace.

While it is good to be silent at times, silence should never become a way of life. By remaining silent a woman gradually loses her voice. Her authority becomes diminished and over time she may lose confidence in herself and in her ability to make the right decisions for her life.        

In a relationship each person matters. Do not suffer in silence. Find your voice and speak your truth. Your voice matters.

Don’t be Fooled

If a man keeps walking out on you and keeps returning don’t be fooled. Don’t start thinking that he loves you and he can’t live without you so that’s the reason he keeps coming back.

First you must understand that what you have is a selfish individual who cares nothing about your happiness. The reason he keeps coming back is not because he loves you, it is because you make yourself available. Don’t be fooled.
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Choose to be Happy

The mistake many of us make is to expect someone to come into our lives and make us happy. The key to happiness is to realize that no owes us any obligation to make us happy. We must take control over our lives and do not rely too  heavily on someone else for happiness. Often after a breakup people hold on to the hurt and pain of the failed relationship. Unhappiness becomes a way of life and there is no moving forward.

We have to understand that people will disappoint us, they will betray and hurt us. But we must refuse to let them take our joy. Promise yourself that you will choose happiness in spite of situations that are beyond your control. Trust God and know that he will not allow the person who cause you pain to live happily ever after while you live in misery.

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Broken Trust

I want to trust you but my heart is so afraid,
You say you have changed,
But how can I be sure,
I want to believe you,
But I don’t want to have to re-live,
The heartache of the past.
Painful memories serves as a reminder,
Of the risks I have taken,
And the promises that have been broken.
I want to stay afloat,
Not suffocating in this love,
Drowning in my tears,
Knowing that your loyalty is not here.coollogo_com-2765358.png