The Lion and the Cougar
A pointed fable is told about a young lion and a cougar. Both thirsty, the animals arrived at their usual water hole at the same time. They immediately began to argue about who should satisfy their thirst first. The argument became heated, and each decided he would rather die than give up the privilege of being first to quench his thirst.
As they stubbornly confronted each other, their emotions turned to rage. Their cruel attacks on each other were suddenly interrupted. They both looked up. Circling overhead was a flock of vultures waiting for the loser to fall. Quietly, the two beasts turned and walked away. The thought of being devoured was all they needed to end their quarrel.
Moral of the story is that sometimes you will have to walk away from an argument and you also have to choose your battles wisely.
Does he Show you That he Loves You
We have often heard it said that the most interesting story is the one where the author show rather than tell the reader what is happen. You can apply this same concept to your relationship. Your relationship can become so much more meaningful when he not only tells you that he loves you but shows you that he does.
Words without action are often meaningless words. If he tells you that he loves you yet acts differently do not believe his words but rather his actions. How a man treats you is exactly how he feels about you. Sometimes women are enthralled by the words and make excuses for the actions.
It may be a hard pill to swallow but listen to his truth, take note of the feelings that he is expressing by his actions and decide if he is showing you enough love.
Does he Meet Your Expectations
Does the man you are dating have the attributes that you are seeking in a partner. Is he considerate or affectionate and does he seem trustworthy. Does he have a plan or a vision for the future. Is he the type who is just drifter, living for the moment with no thought about tomorrow….yes those types exist.
Is he someone who respects women or does he see women as an acquisition and boasts about his past conquests. Do you share the same values or interests. Do you find him easy to talk to and does he engage in meaningful conversations?
Sometimes at the start of a relationship sparks will fly and fires may be ignited but if you are not compatible it burns out quickly and the fire dies. So to save yourself heartache evaluate the facts in front of you and decide if he is someone you want to take a chance with.
A businessman was highly critical of his competitors’ storefront windows. “Why, they are the dirtiest windows in town,” he claimed. Fellow business people grew tired of the man’s continual criticism and nitpicking comments about the windows. One day over coffee, the businessman carried the subject just too far. Before leaving, a fellow store owner suggested the man get his own windows washed. He followed the advice, and the next day at coffee, he exclaimed, “I can’t believe it. As soon as I washed my windows, my competitor must have cleaned his too. You should see them shine.”
Confucius once declared, “Don’t complain about the snow on your neighbor’s roof when your own doorstep is unclean.”
The moral of the story is don’t focus on the fault of others to the point where you can’t see your own faults.
How Well do You Know Him?
Sometime women will get in serious relationships without know much about the men. This can leave a woman at a disadvantage because sometimes the man is either married or he is involved in another relationship.
Before you get too deeply involved with him get to know as much about him as you possibly can. Your life and your future is not something that you should take chances with. Find out where he lives and what kind of person he is in his community, does he have a bad reputation or is he a respectful citizen. When starting a relationship take it, get to know something about him and then decide if this is the person you want to invest your time and energy in.
Remember that all that glitters is not gold and it is better to play it safe rather than end up being sorry and hurt.
To all you wonderful people I am thanful for the opportunity given to me to intereact with you all. On this Thanksgiving I wish for you and your families a Blessed, Peaceful and Happy Day.