Who you fall in love with is destined by fate. While we can plan for most aspect of our lives, when it comes to love the best made plans can fall to pieces. Often emotions take over and you find you are no longer in control. The heart wants what the heart wants and sometimes the heart gets what the heart wants, and yet relationships fail.
Sometimes the excitement is all in the chase and once the prize is won the excitement diminishes and complacency sets in. People begin taking each other for granted, passions wains…. Often times relationships fail because people don’t take the time to try to make it work. Like everything else, in order to be a success, relationships take work.
Does the man you are dating have the attributes that you are seeking in a partner. Is he considerate or affectionate and does he seem trustworthy. Does he have a plan or a vision for the future. Is he the type who is just drifter, living for the moment with no thought about tomorrow….yes those types exist.
Is he someone who respects women or does he see women as an acquisition and boasts about his past conquests. Do you share the same values or interests. Do you find him easy to talk to and does he engage in meaningful conversations?
Sometimes at the start of a relationship sparks will fly and fires may be ignited but if you are not compatible it burns out quickly and the fire dies. So to save yourself heartache evaluate the facts in front of you and decide if he is someone you want to take a chance with.
Sometime women will get in serious relationships without know much about the men. This can leave a woman at a disadvantage because sometimes the man is either married or he is involved in another relationship.
Before you get too deeply involved with him get to know as much about him as you possibly can. Your life and your future is not something that you should take chances with. Find out where he lives and what kind of person he is in his community, does he have a bad reputation or is he a respectful citizen. When starting a relationship take it, get to know something about him and then decide if this is the person you want to invest your time and energy in.
Remember that all that glitters is not gold and it is better to play it safe rather than end up being sorry and hurt.
The sun is still shining, she can’t fathom why
Her life has been shattered in the blink of an eye.
Sorrow engulfs her she tries not to cry,
He declared it was over and bid her goodbye.
A Casanova was he, too late did she see
Hers wasn’t the only chamber where he had to be.
Ostentatious a lover he did fool her so,
When asked if he loved her his answer was no.
Love’s like a viper was the lesson she learned,
Others had felt its sting now it was her turn.
She refused to break down or to respond
with a frown,
So she put on a brave smile and bid him goodbye.
The sun is still shining but now she understands why,
The earth will keep moving,the stars will still shine,
Life isn’t over just because he bid her goodbye.
The silence between them is profound She yearns so much for a hug from him or just a gentle touch. But he turns away and she feels frozen by the coldness he displays. Feelings of love unrequited hits her like a mountain waves. She would do anything if this relationship she could save.
His phone rings, he answers it and smiles, “I am going to meet Sam for a drink,” he says But of course she knows he lies. “I know about her,” she says. He looks at her and there is no surprise in his eyes, He offers no ostentatious words of denial. Unperturbed by his betrayal “Don’t wait up for me,” he says. His words cut her like a knife Her heart is bleeding She feels like screaming But she is numbed by his indifference An apology, or even a denial, Anything would have been better than his cold indifference.
Before I met you I was just an ordinary guy, Chasing all the girls, Love then and leave them was my motto, To me it was just a game. There was no real commitment, And that was how I wanted it to be, I wanted to have them all and yet be free. But then you walked into my life, And girl you rocked my world, I took one look at you and knew, You were no ordinary girl. I tried so hard not to fall for you, But against my will I did, And I knew my days of chasing girls were over Because all I wanted was to be with you.
My charm didn’t work on you, Like it did with all the others, You said I was just a player, And you could do much better. I tried so hard to win your heart, I tried to make you see, That this was not a game I played, My love for you was real. I couldn’t make you slip away, I knew I had to change.
Now I am a much better person, And it is all because of you, You say you are proud of me, And I just want you to know, It is you who is responsible, For the man I have become.
I want to trust you but my heart is so afraid, You say you have changed, But how can I be sure, I want to believe you, But I don’t want to have to relive, The heartache of the past. Painful memories serves as a reminder, Of the risks I have taken, And the promises that have been broken. I want to stay afloat, Not suffocating in this love, Drowning in my tears, Knowing that your loyalty is not here.
I count every minute of every single day Time seems to have stood still since you went away, I miss your smile, I miss your laughter, I miss your gentle touch, I miss making love with you, Honey I miss you oh so much. We talk on the phone but it’s not the same, At night in my dreams I whisper your name, I can’t wait till you are back home, Here safe in my arms, Until then I pray that God will protect you, And keep you from all harm.
You seemed so sweet at the start,
Honey you captured my heart,
But now the veil is down,
I’m seeing your true colors,
And it’s causing me to frown.
I thought you were caring, You do care, but only about you,
You scheme, you lie and you connive,
You do what it takes to get what you want,
Without giving what I want much of a thought.
I thought you were my dream come true,
But my worst fears is that you are turning into my nightmare.
I can’t go on living this lie,
Now that the blindfold has been removed from my eyes,
I thought you were a princess,
Now you seem more like a witch, At what point in this relationship did you switch? Divide and conquer seems to be your latest motto, You think you have me trapped, But honey I’ve got news for you, Two can play this game and I don’t plan to lose, The stakes are high, it’s you and I. Maybe some day when you are all alone, You will realize how foolish you were, To destroy what we had with your dirty ways, silly games and lies.
The lines have been crossed,
You said it was a mistake,
I say it’s your loss.
You had a choice to make,
You chose to throw this love away,
I could make mistakes too but I don’t,
because I love and respect you.
You say to forgive you,
I say it’s not that simple.
How many more mistakes will you make,
And how many more times will I have to forgive you?
The lines have been crossed,
Trust have gone out the window,
There is a hole in my heart that needs to be fixed,
A part of it has been broken,
And I wonder if it will ever mend.
A dream has been shattered,
Hopes went up in smokes,
Loyalty was important,
But for you it was just a joke.
The lines have been crossed,
And now where do we stand my friend?
When glass has been shattered,
It’s hard to put the pieces back together,
No matter how you try to mend it,
It will never be the same again.