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Empowering Women

REASONS NOT TO RETURN AN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP

  • Remember that it was the abusive behavior of your partner which caused you to leave in the first place. You were not happy in the relationship.
  • He will continue to abuse you even if he promises you that he will never hit you again. The abuse will continue and it could get worse.
  • Abusers seldom stop their abusive behavior unless they get some form of counseling or therapy. Don’t go back and expect him to change because he says he has changed. As soon as he gets comfortable with you being back he will start abusing you again.
  • Abusers like to instill fear in their victims. He will try to make you so fearful of him that you are less likely to leave him.
  • He may become more possessive and controlling and try t isolated you from your family and friends. He might start keeping tabs on you, watching you more closely for any sign that you might try to leave again.
  • He will do everything within his power to make it impossible for you to leave again. He might even threaten to take your life.
  • The most serious of all the reasons is that he may follow through on his threats. You may never get the chance to escape a second time with your life. Some abusers are prepared to take the lives of their victims and then their own. Don’t let this happen to you.

Once you get the chance to leave the relationship never return to an abusive partner no matter how persuasive he may be.




Don’t Stay Stuck in Unhappiness

Monochrome Photo of Girl Crying

Relationships take hard work, and in spite of your best efforts, it might not work out. Sometimes people grow apart or they take each other for granted and stop nurturing the relationship.

Not every couple like to admit to themselves or want to let others know that they cannot make it work, so they stay together even when they are both miserable.

There is no point in holding on if you are not happy. There is nothing you can gain from staying stuck in unhappiness. Sometimes when you have given it your best shot, and it is not working out, you have to let go. Walk away. It is better to be alone than to stay stuck in an unhappy relationship.

Strong Black Woman

As Black History Month draws to a close I would like to pay tribute to all women of color. I wrote the poems some years back and I want to share it with you. To every black woman who has gone through life believing she is not good enough; just know that you are enough!

Strong Black Woman

They told her she couldn’t do it,                          Image result for image of beautiful black woman

But she proved them all wrong.

Poor, bare foot country girl

Wanting to be doctor?

“Must be crazy,” they told her.

But she knew she was sane,

A doctor she wanted to be,

And for that goal she did aim.

 

They looked in awe and wonder,

Said she made them proud.

Yet they didn’t think her good enough,

For they told her she couldn’t have him,

Asked if she had lost her mind,

Doctor or not he wouldn’t marry her,

Her family was too poor,

And she was just too black.

 

She pitied their ignorance,

Felt ashamed for their own

lack of self-esteem.

She knew what she wanted

She knew together they would make a good team.

So she married him,

and stupid people that they were,

They wondered did he really love her or did she cast a spell?

 

Still enslaved by mental slavery,

They find it hard to understand,

That it is not the color of your skin,

Or the family you are from,

That defines you as a man or a woman.

 

 

Relationships

He loves me

“I love you,” he said last night

as he held me tight.

His words were like magic to my ears.

Today he came home angry

and his fist almost sent me

flying down the stair.

“I am leaving,” I screamed

“You wouldn’t dare,” he said.

“If you do I’ll find you and kill you.”

I stared at him trying hard to understand

How this sweet loving man can sometimes

change on me like a chameleon.

He doesn’t mean it you know

After all he loves me!

ps. Often times women find themselves caught up in these situation. Take any threat on your life serious. If he says he will kill you, don’t convince yourself that he won’t. Seek help. Get out. Save yourself.

View’s About Women

From A Man’s Perspective

Recently I came across a Facebook video of a man sharing his views about the growing nudity displayed by women. He voiced his concern that woman are not taking pride in themselves any more and seem to think they have to walk around half-naked to catch the eyes of a man. He warns that they will attract attention but from the wrong men and that they should take more pride in themselves because a man can spot a good woman from a distance even if she is fully clothed.

I am noticing this growing trend of women wearing less and less and I feel sad that women feel they have to go to this level in order to feel attractive. Women please be reminded that respect begins with you.

It’s Okay

It’s okay to be different. It is okay to be that girl, or woman who wants to create her own path and make her own rules. It is okay to have a voice. It is okay to reach for the stars and to climb on mountains. It is okay to not want to settle for mediocrity. It is okay to cut ties with those who stifle your growth and add nothing of value to your life. It’s ok for you to be you!

Photo of a Woman Posing

Empowerment

  People often view you in the manner in which you portray yourself. If you portray yourself as someone who does not love or respect him or herself and show signs of low self-esteem this is how the world will look upon you.  It you don’t believe that you are important others won’t either and they will treat you accordingly. How people treat you is sometimes a reflection of how our portray yourself. Always take pride in yourself and  put your best foot forward.

Empowerment

Every woman has the ability to experience personal growth and development. This first step begins with you adopting a positive attitude towards life. You must have a fervent desire to rise above any problem or circumstances that may be holding you back.  Be aware of your environment and social connections. If your circle of friends are negative, unproductive people who add nothing to your growth, you need to change them.

Set achievable goals for your life and devise a plan on how you are going to reach those goals. Make a chart of the things you hope to achieve and set a time frame. Push yourself to achieve your daily or weekly goals. Be in touch with your spiritual side. It is always a good thing to believe in a higher power to sustain you and lift you up. Find something that motivates you and give you hope. Knowledge is very important so read widely on topics that interest you. Read to increase your intelligence or simply for recreation. You will be surprised at how much you can learn from making a habit of reading. Above all as you going through each day have a strong belief in self and your ability to be successful.