Ladies looking out for yourself is very important as others may not always be there to protect you. The biggest weapon that leaves women trapped in relationships is FEAR. Now this FEAR does not come obout overnight. Overtime an abusive partner will groom you to FEAR him so it is important to recognize signs of intimidation however subtle. If you feel that he will hurt you even if he hasn’t laid a hand on you listen to your intuition and tread carefully. You cannot build a healthy relationship with someone that you are afraid of so if he tries to intimidate you walk away.
Category: Relationships & Society
Things I Wished I Could Have Told Them
This week a story surfaced on face book about a young couple. The girlfriend who was apparently pregnant according to news stories killed herself in her dorm room. Her boyfriend who thought he was been unfairly blamed for her death killed himself a few days later.
I wished I could have told her that there is no problem in life that was worth taking her life. I wish I could have told her that she would get through it. I wish I could have told her its okay not to be perfect. I wish I could have told her to stay strong and not give up hope. I wish I could have told her that there was light ahead of the tunnel and with the help of God it would all work out right. There are so many things I wished I could have told her even though I didn’t know her. But now all I can say is “Rest In Peace.”
I Wished I could have told him that it wasn’t his fault. I wish I could have told him that somebody cared. I wish I could have told him that the pain in his heart would lessen with time. I wished I could have told him that the storm would pass and someday life would again have meaning. I watched his video with tears in my eyes and my heart ached to see the anguish he was in. There are so many things I wished I could have told him even though I didn’t know him. But now all I can say is Rest in Peace…..
Parents, love your children hold them, hug them and let them know that no matter what problems they face in life you will be there for them and you will help them get through it. It is a terrible thing for a parent to have to bury a child.
Empowering Women
Relationships
Dealing With Infidelity
Are you in a relationship where you feel as if you are giving one hundred percent and he is only giving fifty? That is probably because he is giving another woman that other fifty. Infidelity is one of the major cause of problems in relationships. There is a tendency for both of the sexes to cheat and when there is no trust in a relationship it is destined for failure.
As a woman how do you deal with the fact that your partner is cheating on you? Do you confront him, make him know you won’t stand for it, give him an ultimatum wherein he has to choose you or go out the door? Or are you so afraid you might lose him that you turn a blind eye, suffer silently and tell yourself that you would rather share him than lose him? The fact is if you are sharing him with someone else you are half-way on the road to losing him anyway. What is the point in prolonging your unhappiness?
You might be so afraid of losing him that you try to convince yourself that you can deal with it. But why lie to yourself? You lie awake at night wondering where he is, who he is with and what he is doing. You want to feel his arms about you but the space beside you is empty and you know in your heart that he is with someone else. You cry yourself to sleep knowing you have to let him go but not having the courage to do it.
Women often feel they need a man even when that man turns out to be a source of unhappiness. The truth is you don’t need someone in your life who is making you unhappy. You cannot rely on someone else to make you happy. You are the author and creator of your happiness. You cannot leave it in someone else’s hands!
If a man loves, respect and cares about his woman, chances are he will not cheat on her. If he does not love, care for and respect you then you need to let him go. There are times in life when you have to compromise but this is not one of those times. If he is cheating on you and refuses to stop you need to show him the door because you don’t need him anymore than he needs you. You certainly do not need to put yourself at risk for STD’s especially HIV and AIDS. If you man is playing around he is not just messing with your heart, he could be messing with your life as well.
In my next post I will tell you about one woman who compromised and paid for it with her life. Be wise, stay strong , love yourself and accept nothing less than you deserve! Take control of your relationship today!
Empowering Women
Borrowed Time
The youthful years are gifts from God use them wisely. Do not be like the five foolish virgins who had no oil in their lamps and were caught unprepared.
Some young people live life with no thought of tomorrow and are unprepared for life’s realities. It is all good and well to have fun but you need to know who is going to have your back when the fun is over.
A young man will bounce from woman to woman living the life of a player, forming no roots because he doesn’t understand that nothing lasts forever. It is not about how many women you can sleep with but about finding a woman who is going to be there for the long ride and have your back no matter what. When you find such a woman treat her like the queen she is because the day will come when you can’t play those games. The good looks won’t last forever neither will the sex appeal. In fact the day might come when the only thing you can raise is your hand to put food to your mouth. So don’t go on living careless. Let your life take root.
Young woman don’t buy into the hype that you are beautiful and sexy and can have any man so there is no need for you to settle down. You live to be the life of the party. You want to be the one men lust after. Enjoy the ride while you can because it won’t last forever. Before you know it everything start heading south, old age start creeping in and you are left wondering where did all the years go because for the future you didn’t plan.
So young men and women while you are young and having fun remember that the youthful years are a gift from God and you must use them wisely.
Empowering Women
The time has come for us as women to realize our worth and take responsibility for our lives. We must embrace change when we see that path that we are taking only leads to pain. We must liberate ourselves and become the masters of our own happiness. No one is going to do it for us, we have to do that for ourselves. Happiness is not a privilege, it is our birthright and we must never place it in the hands of those who have no understanding that their role is to add and not take away a woman’s happiness.
Empowering Women
RELATIONSHIPS
Does his Family Dislike You
You are dating him not his family so their opinion of you shouldn’t matter right? Not quite, sometimes his family’s reaction to you can have an influence on the relationship. When you are up against his relatives who don’t like you and do not approve of your relationship it can make it more difficult for things to work out with him.
The man may love you but may not like being in a situation where he has to choose between you and his family. If you find yourself in this situation tread carefully. It is going to take a lot of work from the both of you to reach a common ground with his family and make the relationship work.
Empowering Women
Relationships
Is he a Casanova?
Is the man you are thinking of dating a Casanova? Does he bounce from one relationship to another and his excuse is that he is searching for the right woman. Does he look so handsome and some damn fine that you want to be the one to reel him in and change his mindset… tame him so to speak.
Don’t waste your time. A man like that is rarely ever faithful and the lover that you think he is sometimes figment of your imagination because in truth he is nothing but a heart-breaker. He may have a lot of women but unable to keep them happy because it is hard for a woman to be happy when she knows she is sharing her man.
If he seems like a player and has been with multiple woman don’t waste your time on him because chances are that he is never going to change. He will take what you have to offer until he finds his next fling and he will keep moving on.
Empowering Women
Relationships
Does he Show you That he Loves You
We have often heard it said that the most interesting story is the one where the author show rather than tell the reader what is happen. You can apply this same concept to your relationship. Your relationship can become so much more meaningful when he not only tells you that he loves you but shows you that he does.
Words without action are often meaningless words. If he tells you that he loves you yet acts differently do not believe his words but rather his actions. How a man treats you is exactly how he feels about you. Sometimes women are enthralled by the words and make excuses for the actions.
It may be a hard pill to swallow but listen to his truth, take note of the feelings that he is expressing by his actions and decide if he is showing you enough love.
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Relationships
Does he Meet Your Expectations
Does the man you are dating have the attributes that you are seeking in a partner. Is he considerate or affectionate and does he seem trustworthy. Does he have a plan or a vision for the future. Is he the type who is just drifter, living for the moment with no thought about tomorrow….yes those types exist.
Is he someone who respects women or does he see women as an acquisition and boasts about his past conquests. Do you share the same values or interests. Do you find him easy to talk to and does he engage in meaningful conversations?
Sometimes at the start of a relationship sparks will fly and fires may be ignited but if you are not compatible it burns out quickly and the fire dies. So to save yourself heartache evaluate the facts in front of you and decide if he is someone you want to take a chance with.
Author Marva Seaton 
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