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Empowering Women

Relationships

What a Woman Wants From Her Man

What a woman often wants most from a relationship is to have a man who loves, respect, and appreciates her. She wants a man who makes her feel special; one who thinks about her feelings and not just his own.

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A woman wants a man who will not lie to her or give her a reason to feel jealous. She needs to be able to trust him with her heart. She wants someone who is serious about her and their relationship and is willing to put in as much effort to make it work as she does. She wants a man who will commit to her and  who will be there for her when she needs him.

 

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Empowering Women

Equal rights and justice for all should include equal rights for women. For centuries women have been treated like second class citizens. Things have changed along the years, but the change so far is not enough and women still have to work twice as hard as their male counterparts to get ahead in life.

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The double standard is evident all around us. It is easier for society to forgive a man for the mistakes he makes than for them to forgive a woman. Just take a brief glimpse at relationships for example; a man can have multiple partners and it is accepted as being okay – he is just being a man. On the other hand should a woman do the same thing she is considered a whore.

The double standard must stop what is good for the goose is good for the gander. It is time to start taking women seriously and treat us with the respect we deserve.

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Relationships

Two things that may hold a woman back is self-doubt and low expectations. Often times in relationships a woman gives her all trying to please her man without understanding that she deserves his all in return. She gives a hundred percent of her love only to have it taken for granted.

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A woman who lives with self-doubt and believes that she has no choice but to settle will live a life filled with disappointments. She needs to understand that she deserves as much happiness as her man. She needs to know that she should never accept anything less than she deserves.                                               

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RELATIONSHIPS

One Sign That he may be an Abuser  “ISOLATION”

A majority of women get into relationships having no idea that their intended partners are abusers.  This happens because you cannot tell that a man is an abuser simply by looking at him.  He often appears to be your regular nice guy.  He puts on the charm.  He wines and dine you and make you feel important.  He says the right words that you want to hear.

However charming he may appear at first be careful and take nothing for granted.  Keep your eyes open for any warning signs that he may not be all that he wants you to believe that he is because he could be an abuser.

One of the first signs to watch for is ‘Isolation’.  One of the first things he may try to do is isolate you from your friends and relatives.  If he wants you to cut ties with your friends don’t for one moment believe that he is thinking of your best interest.  If he tries to keep you away from your family or try to make you choose between your family and him be warned; he is up to no good.  He could be setting the stage for abuse!

When he gets you in a position where you are isolated from your family and friends it gives him power over you because when the abuse starts you will find yourself alone with no one to come to your aid and that is exactly what he wants.  Do not ignore that first clue!

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Getting Respect

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There is an old saying that the more things change the more they remain the same. Many women know this reality only too well. The abuse and disrespect of women have gone unchanged throughout the centuries dispte talks of ending abuse and protecting women.

It is time for self empowerment and for women to  recognize some of the signs that indicate you may be heading for disaster. An important element of any relationship is RESPECT. A man who respect his woman will not make her feel as if she is unimportant and unworthy of his love. If you start off the relationship feeling that you are not respected enough don’t waste your time and energy trying to make him respect you. It is a bad foot to start out on and a serious indication that it will not work out.

You cannot force a person to respect you but you can refuse to be disrespected. Empower youself with the knowledge that you derseve better and you will not settle for less.

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Financial Security

Women are very trusting and are often taken advantage of. Many take it for granted that their partners will stand by them and take care of their finances so they have nothing to worry about. This is a false sense of security.

Every woman must ensure her financial security. Do not leave it up to the man, you need your financial independence. It is okay to have a joint account but you also need a separate account for yourself. It is not that your don’t trust him but it is good to have something of your own that you can fall back on just in case.

Always ensure that any property that you acquire together have both your names on it and not just his. Trust is a good thing but when things go wrong that is the time when you realize that trust is not enough. Always get something in writing to back up your claims or you might not have a leg to stand on.

5 Reasons Not to be a Side chick

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The very fact that you see yourself as a side chick means that you know that the man already has a wife or girlfriend. You are not his number one priority.

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You are intruding on another woman’s relationship and may possibly be the home wrecker who disrupt her life and that her children. That is not cool.

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You are the secret that his wife or girlfriend must never find out about. It is important for his secret to stay hidden.

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If his wife or girlfriend finds out about you, you then becomes his mistake. His explanation to his wife or girlfriend…he made a mistake. You are that mistake.

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Of course to save his relationship with the person who really matters he will say you meant nothing. So from being a secret, then a mistake you become nothing. Don’t be his nothing.

The bottom line is you need to respect yourself and respect the other woman’s relationship. If that is not enough remember Karma is a bitch and what you dish out you will get back in return.

The Other Woman

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Isn’t it wonderful when a couple makes time for each other?  A healthy relationship can flourish when both the man and the woman stay faithful to each other but sometimes it does not work out the way you anticipate.  When a woman says her  relationship is complicated in  many instances  another woman is in the picture.

It is bad enough when your man is cheating, but what is even worse is when the other woman try to imply that it is your fault why he is cheating.  She often does not see herself as doing anything wrong, at least not until you let her have him and he starts cheating on her with someone else.  She gets angry and upset and it does not occur to her that she was once that woman. It does not sink in that  she was once the other woman.

Goodbye

The sun is still shining, she can’t fathom why
Her life has been shattered in the blink of an eye.
Sorrow engulfs her she tries not to cry,
He declared it was over and bid her goodbye.
A Casanova was he, too late did she see
Hers wasn’t the only chamber where he had to be.
Ostentatious a lover he did fool her so,
When asked if he loved her his answer was no.
Love’s like a viper was the lesson she learned,
Others had felt its sting now it was her turn.
She refused to break down or to respond
with a frown,
So she put on a brave smile and bid him goodbye.
The sun is still shining but now she understands why,
The earth will keep moving,the stars will still shine,
Life isn’t over just because he bid her goodbye.
 

 

Indifference

The silence between them is profound
She yearns so much
 for a hug from him
 or just a gentle touch.
But he turns away and she feels frozen
 by the coldness he displays.
 Feelings of love unrequited
hits her like a mountain waves.
She would do anything
 if this relationship she could save.

His phone rings, he answers it and smiles,
“I am going to meet Sam for a drink,” he says
But of course she knows he lies.
“I know about her,” she says.
He looks at her and there is no surprise in his eyes,
He offers no ostentatious words of denial.
Unperturbed by his betrayal
 “Don’t wait up for me,” he says.
His words cut her like a knife
Her heart is bleeding
She feels like screaming
But she is numbed by his indifference
An apology, or even a denial,
Anything would have been better
than his cold indifference.