Life and Living, LIFESTYLE, Relationships

Indifference

The silence between them is profound
She yearns so much
 for a hug from him
 or just a gentle touch.
But he turns away and she feels frozen
 by the coldness he displays.
 Feelings of love unrequited
hits her like a mountain of waves.
She would do anything
 if this relationship she could save.

His phone rings, he answers it and smiles,
“I am going to meet Sam for a drink,” he says
But of course she knows he lies.
“I know about her,” she says.
He looks at her and there is no surprise in his eyes.

He offers no ostentatious words of denial,
Unperturbed by his betrayal,
 “Don’t wait up for me,” he says.
His words cut her like a knife,
Her heart is bleeding,
She feels like screaming,
But she is numbed by his indifference.
An apology, or even a denial,
Anything would have been better
than his cold indifference.

Relationships

Blaming the Other Woman

Isn’t it rather interesting to note that in a lot of situations where the relationship breaks down because the man cheats the wife or girlfriend is quick to point fingers and blame the other woman.

Here are five things to consider before you start blaming the other woman.

No.1 Cheating is not an accident or a mistake. It is a choice; it is a decision that someone makes.

No.2. Cheating is a selfish act which a man commits without any thought of how his actions will affect his partner.

No.3 The other woman cannot wreck your happy home unless your man allows her to.

No.4. The other woman has no commitment to you. She is not responsible for making sure that you don’t hurt emotionally.

No.5. It takes two to make any idea of cheating possible, so don’t just blame the other woman because the man is at fault too.

Relationships

The Other Woman

Couple outside Temple of Somnathpur - Near Mysore - India

Isn’t it wonderful when a couple makes time for each other?  A healthy relationship can flourish when both the man and the woman stay faithful to each other but sometimes it does not work out the way you anticipate.  When a woman says her  relationship is complicated in  many instances  another woman is in the picture.

It is bad enough when your man is cheating, but what is even worse is when the other woman try to imply that it is your fault why he is cheating.  She often does not see herself as doing anything wrong, at least not until you let her have him and he starts cheating on her with someone else.  She gets angry and upset and it does not occur to her that she was once that woman. It does not sink in that  she was once the other woman.

Relationships

Relationships : Women Taking Control

Dealing With Infidelity 

Are you in a relationship where you feel like you are giving one hundred percent and he is only giving fifty?  That is probably because he is giving another woman that other fifty.  Infidelity is one of the major cause of problems in relationships.  There is a tendency for both of the sexes to cheat and when there is no trust in a relationship it is destined for failure.
As a woman how do you deal with the fact that your partner is cheating on you?  Do you confront him, make him know you won’t stand for it, give him an ultimatum wherein he had to choose you or go out the door?  Or are you so afraid you might lose him that you turn a blind eye, suffer silently and tell yourself that you would rather share him than lose him?  The fact is if you are sharing him with someone else you are half-way on the road to losing him anyway.  What is the point in prolonging your unhappiness?
You might be so afraid of losing him that you try to convince yourself that you can deal with it.   But why lie to yourself?  You lie awake at night wondering where he is, who he is with and what he is doing.  You want to feel his arms about you but the space beside you is empty and you know in your heart that he is with someone else.  You cry yourself to sleep knowing you have to let him go but not having the courage to do it.
Women often feel they need a man even when that man turns out to be a source of unhappiness.  The truth is you don’t need someone in your life who is making you unhappy.  You cannot rely on someone else to make you happy.  You are the author and creator of your happiness.  You cannot leave it in someone else’s hands!
If a man loves, respect and cares about his woman, chances are he will not cheat on her.  If he does not love, care for and respect you then you need to let him go.  There are times in life when you have to compromise but this is not one of those times.  If he is cheating on you and refuses to stop you need to show him the door because you don’t need him anymore than he needs you.  You certainly do not need to put yourself at risk for STD’s especially HIV and AIDS.  If you man is playing around he is not just messing with your heart, he could be messing with your life as well.
In my next post I will tell you about one woman who compromised and paid for it with her life.  Be wise, stay strong , love yourself and accept nothing less than you deserve!  Take control of your relationship today!