Life comes with no guarantee neither warranty, it comes with no manual or navigational map. It comes with no recipe nor formula for success, it gives us no idea of what the future holds, as a matter of fact it comes naked; the truth be told however, is that the outcome will be determined by our very own attitude and actions.
Michael Williams
A big thank you to alethea matthews http://myimpregnablesoul.wordpress.com/for nominating me for The Very Inspiring Blogger Award. Please check out alethea’s blog, you will find her stories very interesting.
The rules for accepting the award are as follows;
1 Display the award logo,
2 link back to the person who nominated you,
3 state 7 things about yourself,
4 nominate 15 other bloggers for this award and link to them.
Seven things about me
1 I don’t get angry easily
2 I love to be indoors when its raining
3 I love to cook
4 I enjoy gardening
5 I don’t like to see people mistreated
6 I like honesty
7 I believe every life is important
Here are my Nominees
1 http://readinpleasure.wordpress.com/
3 http://livingsuccess3d.wordpress.com/
4 http://mareesamartin.wordpress.com/
5 http://poetictwist.wordpress.com/
6 http://chestermaynes.wordpress.com/
7 http://grndmachris.wordpress.com/
8 http://lizziejoysphotosuite.com/
9 http://kiramoorescloset.wordpress.com/
10 http://1800ukillme.wordpress.com
11 http://poeticlicensee.wordpress.com/
12 http://cbcburke9.wordpress.com/
15 http://chris13jkt.wordpress.com/
I must also say a big thank you to fransiweinstein http://weinstein365.wordpress.com/for nominating me for the Reality Blog Award. Please check out Frans blog. You will find it informative and entertaining.
There are no set rules for this award but there are a few questions you can answer if you wish to.
1 If you could change something about your life what would you change?
My answer is nobody’s life is perfect. I can strive to make it better but I wouldn’t want to change anything
2 What one thing really scares you?
I think there is a saying which goes ‘there is nothing to fear but fear itself’. I think it is important to stay positive and not give in to fear.
3 What one dream you have not completed yet and do you think you’ll be able to complete it.
I would like to be a published author and I am committed to seeing that dream come true.
4 If you could repeat an age what age would that be?
I don’t want to repeat any age. If I could I would just want to stay forever young.
5 If you could be someone else for a day who would it be?
I don’t think I want to be someone else. I am happy being me.
My Nominees are:
1 http://shawnrjones12.wordpress.com/
2 http://l2ee2l.wordpress.com/
3 http://lesleycarter.wordpress.com/
4 http://dilipnaidu.wordpress.com/
5 http://thelaughinghousewife.wordpress.com/
Never allow yourself to go down a path where your ability to make a judgment between what is right or wrong become distorted by being able to find justification for your actions.
M. Williams
“Some people use any and every negative event to justify their doing nothing,
while others use these same experiences as motivation to effect changes and
make a difference for their families and by extension, to humanity.”
Michael Williams
DON'T WE ALL
I was parked in front of the mall wiping off my car. I had just come
from the car wash and was waiting for my wife to get out of work.
Coming my way from across the parking lot was what society would
consider a bum.
From the looks of him, he had no car, no home, no clean clothes, and no
money. There are times when you feel generous but there are other times
that you just don't want to be bothered. This was one of those "don't
want to be bothered times."
"I hope he doesn't ask me for any money," I thought.
He didn't.
He came and sat on the curb in front of the bus stop but he didn't look
like he could have enough money to even ride the bus.
After a few minutes he spoke.
"That's a very pretty car," he said.
He was ragged but he had an air of dignity around him. His scraggly
blond beard keep more than his face warm.
I said, "thanks," and continued wiping off my car.
He sat there quietly as I worked. The expected plea for money never
came.
As the silence between us widened something inside said, "ask him if
he needs any help." I was sure that he would say "yes" but I held true
to the inner voice.
"Do you need any help?" I asked.
He answered in three simple but profound words that I shall never forget.
We often look for wisdom in great men and women. We expect it from
those of higher learning and accomplishments.
I expected nothing but an
outstretched grimy hand. He spoke the three words that shook me.
"Don't we all?" he said.
I was feeling high and mighty, successful and important, above a bum
in the street, until those three words hit me like a twelve gauge
shotgun.
Don't we all?
I needed help. Maybe not for bus fare or a place to sleep, but I
needed help. I reached in my wallet and gave him not only enough for bus
fare, but enough to get a warm meal and shelter for the day. Those
three little words still ring true. No matter how much you have, no matter
how much you have accomplished, you need help too. No matter how little you
have, no matter how loaded you are with problems, even without money or
a place to sleep, you can give help.
Even if it's just a compliment, you can give that.
You never know when you may see someone that appears to have it all.
They are waiting on you to give them what they don't have. A different
perspective on life, a glimpse at something beautiful, a respite from
daily chaos, that only you through a torn world can see.
Maybe the man was just a homeless stranger wandering the streets. Maybe
he was more than that.
Maybe he was sent by a power that is great and
wise, to minister to a soul too comfortable in themselves.
Maybe God looked down, called an Angel, dressed him like a bum, then said,
"go minister to that man cleaning the car, that man needs help."
Don't we all?
Author Unknown
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I knelt to pray but not for long, So I knelt and said a hurried prayer, All day long I had no time No time, no time, too much to do, God looked into His book and said Author Unknown |
Warning Signs That Your Man Could be an Abuser
Violent Temper and Sudden Mood Changes
If your man display violent behavior and has problems controlling his temper when dealing with others, pay attention. If he was abusive in a previous relationship, this is a warning sign that you should not ignore. You must also note that when he hits you he may try to make light of the situation. A friend of mine once came to me complaining that his girlfriend had left him. I of course asked him why. He said they had gotten into and argument and he accidentally hit her.
As the saying goes there are two sides to every story. His girlfriend who was also a friend of mine told me what really happened. She had gone to a work related function and was late in returning home. He had come in search of her and met her on her way back home. Without any provocation, perhaps just being angry by the fact that she was late, he punched her. The blow left her unconscious and regained consciousness in the hospital. She left him. He could have killed her. She said she wasn’t going back because the next time she might not that lucky. She never took him back, and who could blame her? Yet this is the mistake many women make, going back to their partners after being physically abused by them.
If he is loving and charming when people are around then becomes hostile and abusive when you are alone, do not ignore the changes in his behavior. Abusive men pick the time and place to carry out their abuse. They are often very charming when others are around to observe them, but become a different person behind closed doors. Some abusers seem to have split personality. In public they have this desire to be seen as Mr. Nice guy and it is this nice guy attitude which might charm a woman into falling for him. However when you are alone with him behind closed doors and you see his true character emerging, do not hesitate or second guess your self; end the relationship. The longer you remain the more difficult it will be for you to extricate yourself.
Recognizing Warning Signs That Your Man Could be an Abuser
Women are often trapped in abusive relationships because they did not recognize or chose to ignore the warning signs. Since it is often difficult to get out of these relationships it is very important for you to be aware of the negative behavior of your partner and end the relationship before he gets too much control over your life.
One of the first thing an abuser will try to is to control you. He will try to make you abandon your family and friends for him. He needs to get the feeling that he is number one in your life; that he means more to you than anyone else. I recall a conversation I had with a friend of mine (who we shall call Sharon) very abusive boyfriend. Her family was upset about the way he was physically abusing her and was adamant that she should leave him. I remember him saying to me ”Sharon isn’t going to leave me, she loves me. She don’t care about her family. She will do anything I tell her to do so they are just wasting their time.” I recall him being very smug about it, so very sure of himself.
This is one of the first signs that you should learn to recognize. If your partner is trying to separate you from your family and friends, pay close attention and ask yourself, why is he doing this? It could be a situation of divide and conquer. He could be setting the stage for abuse and by controlling you and alienating you from those who care about you, when the abuse begins you will have no one to turn to for help. The first step therefore to not set yourself up for an abusive relationship is to make sure the relationship you have with your family and friends remain intact.
The world is no longer as safe as it once was. In almost every society across the globe crime is on the increase. Young people are becoming more and more caught up in this growing trend and are becoming more reckless in the way they conduct their lives and deal with problems. More and more are experimenting with drugs and alcohol and many getting involved in gun crimes.
With all of this going on it is not surprising that some parents will do everything in their power to try to protect their children and keep them from being exposed to all the negative things in society. Some parents however take things to the extent where they become over-protective. They can become over-protective to the point where their teenagers have very little or no social life because they are not allowed to hang out with friends for fear that they might get caught up in the wrong crowd.
Parents need to realize that being over-protective is not necessarily a good thing. We do not exist in a vacuum; we live in a world where there is good and bad. If children are only exposed to the good, how will they be able to deal with the bad when they come in contact with it. It is inevitable that they will come in contact with people who are bad influences. If this happens will they be strong enough to make the right decision never having to deal with such situations before?
It is important to expose teenagers to the good as well as the bad situations they might encounter in life. Exposure, not in a way to endanger their lives but to educate them on what goes on in the world outside the safe place they call home. Some parents do not allow their teenagers to go to parties or to the movies with their friends. They make the decision as to what age their children can go off to college. There are some who feel that at the age of eighteen their children are still to young to leave for college.
Parents have to understand that simply growing older without gaining the experience necessary to deal with real life situations and problems they might encounter along the way will hinder rather than help teenagers. They need to be allowed the freedom necessary to make import decisions because parents are not always going to be around to make these decisions for them.
Teach your children values, the importance of believing in themselves and to know the difference between right and wrong. Let them know that you have enough faith to believe in them and that you trust them to make the right choices in life. They are not going to be perfect and they are going to make mistakes, but this is how they are going to gain experience and learn to deal with the problems they encounter. Life is a learning process.
Is it possible to stop loving someone you once truly loved?
The topic I am writing on today is up for debate and I am sure many of my readers views might be different from mine. Some people believe that if you love someone you will continue to love that person no matter what and if you stop loving that person it means that you never truly loved them in the first place. The problem I have with this scenario is that it seems a bit one-sided. The first question that comes to mind is what if that person you love don’t love you as much as you love him or her. Even then that is not the real issue; what if the one you that love is constantly abusing you, physically and emotionally? Isn’t there a possibility that at some point in time you might stop loving that person? Some people will contend that you should still love the person but not the behavior but seriously how are you going to separate the two?
Love is an emotion and emotions do not necessarily remain constant except in a fairy tale world. People and situations change and while in some cases couples are able to remain in love for a life time in a lot of other cases relationships just fail to work out. That does not necessarily mean they did not love each other initially. As we grow older we evolve and our needs change and if both parties are not in touch with each other needs the relationship can disintegrate. There are times when dreams, hopes and expectations do not materialize and couples become disillusioned and bitter and blame each other, this can destroy a relationship.
There is a high rate of divorce and many relationships fall apart over time but this does not mean that people might not have felt what they thought was true love for each other at some point in the relationship. If a relationship doesn’t work out does that mean that both parties never truly loved each other? What do you think?
Author Marva Seaton 
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