Warning Signs That Your Man Could be an Abuser
Violent Temper and Sudden Mood Changes
If your man display violent behavior and has problems controlling his temper when dealing with others, pay attention. If he was abusive in a previous relationship, this is a warning sign that you should not ignore. You must also note that when he hits you he may try to make light of the situation. A friend of mine once came to me complaining that his girlfriend had left him. I of course asked him why. He said they had gotten into and argument and he accidentally hit her.
As the saying goes there are two sides to every story. His girlfriend who was also a friend of mine told me what really happened. She had gone to a work related function and was late in returning home. He had come in search of her and met her on her way back home. Without any provocation, perhaps just being angry by the fact that she was late, he punched her. The blow left her unconscious and regained consciousness in the hospital. She left him. He could have killed her. She said she wasn’t going back because the next time she might not that lucky. She never took him back, and who could blame her? Yet this is the mistake many women make, going back to their partners after being physically abused by them.
If he is loving and charming when people are around then becomes hostile and abusive when you are alone, do not ignore the changes in his behavior. Abusive men pick the time and place to carry out their abuse. They are often very charming when others are around to observe them, but become a different person behind closed doors. Some abusers seem to have split personality. In public they have this desire to be seen as Mr. Nice guy and it is this nice guy attitude which might charm a woman into falling for him. However when you are alone with him behind closed doors and you see his true character emerging, do not hesitate or second guess your self; end the relationship. The longer you remain the more difficult it will be for you to extricate yourself.
- Voicing Violence Award (crankygiraffe.wordpress.com)
- It Only Happens When No One Is Looking (RamonaCreel.com)
- Common Characteristics of The Abuser (geeton1.wordpress.com)