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Domestic Violence Awareness

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Let’s get the conversation going.

An Open Letter to Men
From Women Against Domestic Violence

Dear Men:
It is with tears in our eyes and fear for our lives that we pen this note to you. Domestic violence has taken the lives of many of our sisters leaving many of our homes broken and our children motherless.

Men we need you to understand that we are not the enemy so stop treating us like one. We give to you our love, our passion, our understanding and compassion, we trust you with our lives and all we ask is that you reciprocate and treat us right. Don’t see our love for you as a weakness, don’t leave us with cuts and bruises, don’t crush out our joy and leave us broken.

Men you need to understand that love is not supposed to hurt. If your love is causing your woman hurt then it means that you are doing something wrong. Any boy can hurt a woman but it takes a man to make her happy. So the next time you raise your hand to hit a woman stop and ask yourself am I a boy or am I a man. Treat women with love and respect….Be A Man!
~~~~Marva Seaton~~~~

Domestic Violence Awareness

October is Domestic Violence Awareness month. Let us take a moment to reflect on the women who have lost their lives to domestic violence. Most of us know at least one person who was a victim of domestic violence.

As I reflect, a former classmate immediately comes to mind. She was a sweet beautiful soul who lost her life in her early twenties. She was in a relationship and broke up with the guy. Her ex got back in contact with her and asked her to meet him to talk things over; they had a child together.

Naively she went with him to a hotel room where her forced her to drink poison and later checked out leaving her dead body behind. This promising young woman’s life ended before it even began. She was the last person I expected to die that way. Her ex was charged and convicted for her murder.

As you reflect think of anyone know who is presently in an abusive relationship and encourage them to seek help.

Honor Killings

In certain cultures women are denied the right to choose their life partners and any defiance on their part can caused them to be murdered by their own family. One of the most horrendous cases of Honor Killing took place on December 7, 2012 when 22 year-old Nilofar Bibi was publicly beheaded by her own brother in Kolkata, India.

Bibi was only fourteen years old when she left home in an arranged marriage. She alleged that she was tortured by her in-laws and returned to her parent but disappeared days later. Her brother Mehtab Alam 29 at the time found his sister living with an old boyfriend. He stormed into the house and dragged Bibi into the street in broad daylight.

On that fateful day passersby watched in horror as he cut off his sister’s head saying that she had sinned and had to be punished. He left his sister’s body lying in a pool of blood on the road and calmly walked to the police station with her head in his hand to surrender himself. At the station he placed his sister’s head and the butcher knife he had used to decapitate her on the table in front of the police officer. It was later reported that the family expressed support for Alam saying they were proud he upheld the family honor.

Years later nothing has changed and women continue to be murdered in the name of family honor.

Empowering Women

Relationships

Isolation

One of the signs to look for that might serve as an indication that your man may be setting you up for abuse is isolation. A man who loves you and have your best interest at heart will not force you to choose between him and your friends or your family. If he does this it is for an ulterior motive.

I recall the abusive boyfriend of a friend bragging to me that her family was telling her to leave him but she wouldn’t. He said that she didn’t care about her family, that she loved him and would do anything he told her to do. He was gloating….so proud of himself. 

This is the mindset of some abusers, they want you all to themselves so that you are cut off from both family and friends. When he starts to abuse you there is often no one left for you to turn to. Women empower yourselves, watch out for these signs and don’t ignore the red flags.

Empowering Women

Keep the Conversation Going

An Open Letter to Men
From Women Against Domestic Violence
Dear Men:
It is with tears in our eyes and fear for our lives that we pen this note to you. Domestic violence has taken the lives of many of our sisters leaving many of our homes broken and our children motherless. Men we need you to understand that we are not the enemy so stop treating us like one. We give to you our love, our passion, our understanding and compassion, we trust you with our lives and all we ask is that you reciprocate and treat us right. Don’t see our love for you as a weakness, don’t leave us with cuts and bruises, don’t crush out our joy and leave us broken. You see men you need to understand that love is not supposed to hurt. If your love is causing your woman hurt then it means that you are doing something wrong. Any boy can hurt a woman but it takes a man to make her happy. So the next time you raise your hand to hit a woman stop and ask yourself am I a boy or am I a man. Treat women with love and respect….Be A Man!

WHEN WILL WOMEN GET JUSTICE

We talk daily about stemming the spate of violence against women. We pay lip service about punishing offenders, but when is justice really served. When a judge sentences a privileged white man to six months in prison for brutally raping a woman what message is that sending to others like him?

The Judge in the Brock Turner case was more concerned about his welfare than that of the woman he raped. He is reported to have said “A prison sentence would have a severe impact on him…I think he will not be a danger to others.”  So you the judge who women are looking to for justice is concerned about the impact prison will have on this convicted rapist. What about the indelible mark this man has left on this woman’s life. What about her physical, emotional and mental scars; her life will never be this same again.

This is a national disgrace. There should be one set of rules for all whether you are white or black or rich or poor. The privileged few should not be allowed to live above the law; there should be justice for all. Once again I have to ask, WHEN WILL WOMEN GET JUSTICE?

STOP DOMESTIC VIOLENCE

New Jersey Cop Kills Ex-wife

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Each year we talk about protecting women from abuse and call for an end to domestic violence but how much of this is just lip service? Is everything being done to protect  women?

If we take a look at what happened to fifty-one year-old Tamara Seidle it seems like the answer is no. Seidle was shot to death by her ex-husband who incidentally is a police Sgt. Their seven-year-old daughter was put through the trauma of seeing her father killing her mother.

This woman was in an abusive relationship. She knew her life was in danger and sought help but received none. According to reports she made several attempts to get a restraining order and was not granted one. Her ex-husband was an esteemed member of the police department and maintaining his high status was apparently more important than saving her life.Tamara Seidle died because the system failed her.  How many more women will have to die before we stop talking and start implementing stronger measures to protect them?

Kidnapped Nigerian girls

    Another day has passed, another night has come and for many families in Nigeria it offers them no comfort and they will find no rest as they wait for another morning to dawn still not knowing where their daughters are. It has been more than three weeks since over two hundred Nigerian girls were abducted from their school. It is not clear how much effort the Government has made to find the missing girls and they are turning to the world for support to find their children. Do not let these mothers pleas fall on deaf ears.  Do not ignore their tears. It is time for the world to take a stand on atrocities carried out against women. There is too much talk and too little action and not many are held accountable. Tonight let us all say a word of prayer for the safe return of the girls.

Abuse of Women Worldwide

I want to say a big thank you to everyone who has visited this blog.  I want to say a special thank you to those of you who have read my post and have taken the time to click the like button or leave a comment.  I apologize if I am sometimes late in posting a response, but I really do try to read your posts and respond to your comments.  This year my main focus will be on drawing awareness to the ‘Abuse of Women‘ worldwide.

Rape and Abuse

The rape and subsequent death of a twenty-three year old-young woman in India last December was a real eye-opener which drew the attention of the world.  This incident however is just a tip of the iceberg.  The callous and inhumane treatment of women around the world must be addressed.  The stories of rape and other forms of abuse need to be told.  The  way men think about and view women need to change.

I use the term, men loosely, because real men protect and defend women.  I think it is time to find another name for those who rape and abuse women.  I have racked by brains for a word, but all I could come up with is slime-balls, so slime-balls  it is.  We seem to have too many of these slime-balls roaming the earth, preying on defenseless women.  These slime-balls are physically, morally and intellectually inadequate.  They obviously lack self-esteem and confidence in themselves to be able to get a woman, so to makeup for their inadequacies they rape and abuse defenseless women.  When six men see nothing wrong in raping a young woman, inserting rods in her to the point where it damages her internal organs, then something is seriously wrong.

The time has come for us to start taking out the garbage.  The clean up campaign must begin.  Heads of governments need to get their act together.  It is time for more action and less talk.  We must begin to rid our societies of slime-balls  and put them behind bars where they belong.

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