Tag: Relationships

Let Your Hope….

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Relationships

You must be clear in your mind about what you want for your life. Set your standards high. Believe that you deserve the best. Do not compromise and lower your standards  against your better judgment. Do not do anything that makes you unhappy in order to keep someone in your life; in the end you will regret it.
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Domestic Violence Awareness

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Let’s get the conversation going.

An Open Letter to Men
From Women Against Domestic Violence

Dear Men:
It is with tears in our eyes and fear for our lives that we pen this note to you. Domestic violence has taken the lives of many of our sisters leaving many of our homes broken and our children motherless.

Men we need you to understand that we are not the enemy so stop treating us like one. We give to you our love, our passion, our understanding and compassion, we trust you with our lives and all we ask is that you reciprocate and treat us right. Don’t see our love for you as a weakness, don’t leave us with cuts and bruises, don’t crush out our joy and leave us broken.

Men you need to understand that love is not supposed to hurt. If your love is causing your woman hurt then it means that you are doing something wrong. Any boy can hurt a woman but it takes a man to make her happy. So the next time you raise your hand to hit a woman stop and ask yourself am I a boy or am I a man. Treat women with love and respect….Be A Man!
~~~~Marva Seaton~~~~

Relationships are Important

Treat your relationship as if it is important. When you enter into a relationship and decide to share your life with another person it is a big thing.

Most of us when we are about to make an important decision like buying a house, a car, a piece of land or making an investment we do due diligence to make sure we are making the right choice and the right decision. Yet we trust our lives to others without giving it a care or thought. If you think deeply enough we can all agree that our lives are more important than material things.

Relationships are important. We must take the time to find out who we are getting involved with before we go in too deep.

Relationship Awareness

Awareness is important in relationship. Every woman ought to know what she wants from a relationship and what she is looking for in a partner. She must clearly define her expectations, know how much she is willing to put into the relationship and what she will not accept.

She has to predetermine that she will not accept abuse and the moment it happens she should be prepared to walk away. She needs to know that the longer she remains the more comfortable her partner gets and the more he will abuse her.

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This applies to men as well. Don’t believe that because you are a man you must suffer in silence. Domestic violence is wrong and should never be accepted.

Be Kinder to Each Other

One important step towards empowerment as women is that we support one another. Too often women allow envy and jealousy to get in the way of friendships and in some cases good friends become bitter enemies.

Another rule of vital importance is that we respect each other’s relationship. Never contribute to the breakup of another woman’s relationship. Never be a contributing factor in why another woman’s marriage failed. If your happiness can only come about by causing another woman’s unhappiness, whatever happiness you experience will be short-lived. Don’t be a home wrecker; as women let us support and respect each other

Maintain Your Individuality

 

Maintain your individuality in a relationship. Allow someone to share your life but never allow that person to become your life. Despite your best efforts a relationship may fail to work out. If that person who is your life walks away what will you have left?  It is much harder for someone who considers the other person to be his or her life to bounce back after a breakup. In fact some individuals have been known to commit suicide because they accept the breakup to mean tht their life is over. Breakups are hard but by maintaining your individuality you will find it easier to cope.

Respect Each Other

As women we need to look out for, and support each other. Never contribute to the breakdown of another woman’s marriage. Never be part of the reason why someone else relationship didn’t work out. Respect another woman’s relationship in the same way you would want her to respect yours. Together we are stronger. #WomenUnited

Co-parenting After Separation

Most relationships never end on a good note. Breakups and divorce often bring about feelings of hurt and resentment between parents.

When children are involved parents must put aside their feelings and do what is best for their child or children. They have to try to get along. With good communication issues can be worked out and each parent will be able to keep informed about what is going on in the child’s life. When both parents get along it gives the child a sense of security and it reassures the child that he or she is loved by both parents.

Empowering Women

7 REASONS NOT TO RETURN AN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP

  1. Remember that it was the abusive behavior of your partner which caused you to leave in the first place. You were not happy in the relationship.
  2. He will continue to abuse you even if he promises you that he will never hit you again.
  3. Abusers seldom stop their abusive behavior unless they get some form of counseling or therapy so don’t go back and expect him to change simply because he says he has changed. As soon as he gets comfortable with you being back he will start abusing you again.
  4. Abusers like to instill fear in their victims so he will try to make you so fearful of him that you are less likely to leave him.
  5. He may become more possessive and controlling and try to make you more isolated from your family and friends. He might start keeping tabs on you, watching you more closely for any sign that you might try to leave again.
  6. He may do everything within his power to make it impossible for you to leave again. He might even threaten to take your life.
  7. The most serious of all the reasons is that he may follow through on his threats. You may never get the chance to escape a second time with your life. Some abusers are prepared to take your life and then theirs.

Once you get the chance to leave the relationship never return to an abusive partner no matter how persuasive he may be.