The time has come for us as women to realize our worth and take responsibility for our lives. We must embrace change when we see that path that we are taking only leads to pain. We must liberate ourselves and become the masters of our own happiness. No one is going to do it for us, we have to do that for ourselves. Happiness is not a privilege, it is our birthright and we must never place it in the hands of those who have no understanding that their role is to add and not take away a woman’s happiness.
Ladies this is the year that we have to get real about relationships and ensure that we take the right path and make the right decisions.
A man with multiple baby mothers is probably a mover. Often times he is afraid of the responsibility of fatherhood so he keeps moving on once a child gets in the picture. A man like that rarely makes commitments to any woman and often times he is never there for his children.
This is clearly the type of man who you should stay away from. If you are unfortunate enough to fall under his spell make sure you don’t end up being another of his baby mama, unless of course you are prepared to raise your child alone. Don’t fool yourself into believing that you can change him because these kind of men often live this lifestyle until life bites them in the ass. Don’t waste your time with someone like this.
We have all heard the saying “Sticks and stones can break my bones but words can never hurt me.” But let’s face it we all know this is not true. There is nothing more hurtful than to have someone who you love put you down with his words, insults you and say hurtful words that makes you feel worthless.
Many women suffer emotional abuse from their partners. A man will say hurtful things to a woman, which can literally tear her apart, break her down and make her feel as if she is not worthy of his love. Often he erodes her self-esteem and little by little she begins to think less of herself.
One thing ever woman must understand is that love is not supposed to hurt. If he hurts you emotionally then his kind of love is not right for you. Be true to yourself and walk away because you deserve better.
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We have often heard it said that the most interesting story is the one where the author show rather than tell the reader what is happen. You can apply this same concept to your relationship. Your relationship can become so much more meaningful when he not only tells you that he loves you but shows you that he does.
Words without action are often meaningless words. If he tells you that he loves you yet acts differently do not believe his words but rather his actions. How a man treats you is exactly how he feels about you. Sometimes women are enthralled by the words and make excuses for the actions.
It may be a hard pill to swallow but listen to his truth, take note of the feelings that he is expressing by his actions and decide if he is showing you enough love.
Equal rights and justice for all should include equal rights for women. For centuries women have been treated like second class citizens. Things have changed along the years, but the change so far is not enough and women still have to work twice as hard as their male counterparts to get ahead in life.
The double standard is evident all around us. It is easier for society to forgive a man for the mistakes he makes than for them to forgive a woman. Just take a brief glimpse at relationships for example; a man can have multiple partners and it is accepted as being okay – he is just being a man. On the other hand should a woman do the same thing she is considered a whore.
The double standard must stop what is good for the goose is good for the gander. It is time to start taking women seriously and treat us with the respect we deserve.
Two things that may hold a woman back is self-doubt and low expectations. Often times in relationships a woman gives her all trying to please her man without understanding that she deserves his all in return. She gives a hundred percent of her love only to have it taken for granted.
A woman who lives with self-doubt and believes that she has no choice but to settle will live a life filled with disappointments. She needs to understand that she deserves as much happiness as her man. She needs to know that she should never accept anything less than she deserves.
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Society puts a lot of pressure on women. You have to look a certain way have a certain body type and even dress a certain way to conform to the norms of society.
However a strong woman knows that she doesn’t have to do any of this. She knows that her happiness is not derived from pleasing society but instead to have a level of confidence about whom she is as a person so she can be comfortable in her own skin.
There is an old saying that the more things change the more they remain the same. Many women know this reality only too well. The abuse and disrespect of women have gone unchanged throughout the centuries dispte talks of ending abuse and protecting women.
It is time for self empowerment and for women to recognize some of the signs that indicate you may be heading for disaster. An important element of any relationship is RESPECT. A man who respect his woman will not make her feel as if she is unimportant and unworthy of his love. If you start off the relationship feeling that you are not respected enough don’t waste your time and energy trying to make him respect you. It is a bad foot to start out on and a serious indication that it will not work out.
You cannot force a person to respect you but you can refuse to be disrespected. Empower youself with the knowledge that you derseve better and you will not settle for less.
Author Marva Seaton 