Tag: Emotion

Relationships

One of the biggest problems in relationship is that we usually do not have a clear understanding of what we want in a partner or define clearly our expectations. Many people are so smitten by physical appearance that they pay little attention to the person’s character. The end result is that we often find out too late that all that glistens is not gold and that looks can be deceiving. So before you make the biggest mistake of your life get to know as much as possible about the character of the person you are about to become involved with. Never assume that because the person is physically attractive he or she is a perfect match for you.

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This Thing Call Love

There are some things in life,
That you have to do alone,
There are no books to help or guide you,
You have to do it on your own,
And there are no easy answers,
To the questions in your mind,
The confusion of emotions,
Which makes everything hard to define.

You try so hard to understand it,
But nothing makes much sense,
And no matter how smart you are,
You can’t prevent it happening.
I guess it’s how you deal with it,
Wherein the answer lies,
You have to take control of your emotions,
Sometimes you have to smother what you feel in order to get by,
And despite the fact that no doctor can help you,
And no medication can,
Sometimes in life you have to fight this thing called love.

 

Relationships

 

Is it possible to stop loving someone you once truly loved?

The topic I am writing on today is up for debate and I am sure many of my readers views might be different from mine.   Some people believe that if you love someone you will continue to love that person no matter what and if you stop loving that person it means that you never truly loved them in the first place. The problem I have with this scenario is that it seems a bit one-sided.  The first question that comes to mind is what if that person you love don’t love you as much as you love him or her.  Even then that is not the real issue; what if the one you that love is constantly abusing you, physically and emotionally?  Isn’t there a possibility that at some point in time you might stop loving that person?  Some people will contend that you should still love the person but not the behavior but seriously how are you going to separate the two?

Love is an emotion and emotions do not necessarily remain constant except in a fairy tale world.  People and situations change and while in some cases couples are able to remain in love for a life time in a lot of other cases relationships just fail to work out.  That does not necessarily mean they did not love each other initially.  As we grow older we evolve and our needs change and if both parties are not in touch with each other needs the relationship can disintegrate.  There are times when dreams, hopes and expectations do not materialize and couples become disillusioned and bitter and blame each other, this  can destroy a relationship.

There is a high rate of divorce and many relationships fall apart over time but this does not mean that people might not have felt what they thought was true love for each other at some point in the relationship.  If a relationship doesn’t work out does that mean that both parties never truly loved each other?  What do you think?