Category: Relationships

The Strength of a Woman

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Empowering Women

Getting Respect

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There is an old saying that the more things change the more they remain the same. Many women know this reality only too well. The abuse and disrespect of women have gone unchanged throughout the centuries dispte talks of ending abuse and protecting women.

It is time for self empowerment and for women to  recognize some of the signs that indicate you may be heading for disaster. An important element of any relationship is RESPECT. A man who respect his woman will not make her feel as if she is unimportant and unworthy of his love. If you start off the relationship feeling that you are not respected enough don’t waste your time and energy trying to make him respect you. It is a bad foot to start out on and a serious indication that it will not work out.

You cannot force a person to respect you but you can refuse to be disrespected. Empower youself with the knowledge that you derseve better and you will not settle for less.

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Financial Security

Women are very trusting and are often taken advantage of. Many take it for granted that their partners will stand by them and take care of their finances so they have nothing to worry about. This is a false sense of security.

Every woman must ensure her financial security. Do not leave it up to the man, you need your financial independence. It is okay to have a joint account but you also need a separate account for yourself. It is not that your don’t trust him but it is good to have something of your own that you can fall back on just in case.

Always ensure that any property that you acquire together have both your names on it and not just his. Trust is a good thing but when things go wrong that is the time when you realize that trust is not enough. Always get something in writing to back up your claims or you might not have a leg to stand on.

5 Reasons Not to be a Side chick

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The very fact that you see yourself as a side chick means that you know that the man already has a wife or girlfriend. You are not his number one priority.

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You are intruding on another woman’s relationship and may possibly be the home wrecker who disrupt her life and that her children. That is not cool.

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You are the secret that his wife or girlfriend must never find out about. It is important for his secret to stay hidden.

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If his wife or girlfriend finds out about you, you then becomes his mistake. His explanation to his wife or girlfriend…he made a mistake. You are that mistake.

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Of course to save his relationship with the person who really matters he will say you meant nothing. So from being a secret, then a mistake you become nothing. Don’t be his nothing.

The bottom line is you need to respect yourself and respect the other woman’s relationship. If that is not enough remember Karma is a bitch and what you dish out you will get back in return.

Blaming the Other Woman

Isn’t it rather interesting to note that in a lot of situations where the relationship breaks down because the man cheats the wife or girlfriend is quick to point fingers and blame the other woman.

Here are five things to consider before you start blaming the other woman.

No.1 Cheating is not an accident or a mistake. It is a choice; it is a decision that someone makes.

No.2. Cheating is a selfish act which a man commits without any thought of how his actions will affect his partner.

No.3 The other woman cannot wreck your happy home unless your man allows her to.

No.4. The other woman has no commitment to you. She is not responsible for making sure that you don’t hurt emotionally.

No.5. It takes two to make any idea of cheating possible, so don’t just blame the other woman because the man is at fault too.

The Other Woman

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Isn’t it wonderful when a couple makes time for each other?  A healthy relationship can flourish when both the man and the woman stay faithful to each other but sometimes it does not work out the way you anticipate.  When a woman says her  relationship is complicated in  many instances  another woman is in the picture.

It is bad enough when your man is cheating, but what is even worse is when the other woman try to imply that it is your fault why he is cheating.  She often does not see herself as doing anything wrong, at least not until you let her have him and he starts cheating on her with someone else.  She gets angry and upset and it does not occur to her that she was once that woman. It does not sink in that  she was once the other woman.

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Dealing With Infidelity 

Are you in a relationship where you feel like you are giving one hundred percent and he is only giving fifty?  That is probably because he is giving another woman that other fifty.  Infidelity is one of the major cause of problems in relationships.  There is a tendency for both of the sexes to cheat and when there is no trust in a relationship it is destined for failure.
As a woman how do you deal with the fact that your partner is cheating on you?  Do you confront him, make him know you won’t stand for it, give him an ultimatum wherein he had to choose you or go out the door?  Or are you so afraid you might lose him that you turn a blind eye, suffer silently and tell yourself that you would rather share him than lose him?  The fact is if you are sharing him with someone else you are half-way on the road to losing him anyway.  What is the point in prolonging your unhappiness?
You might be so afraid of losing him that you try to convince yourself that you can deal with it.   But why lie to yourself?  You lie awake at night wondering where he is, who he is with and what he is doing.  You want to feel his arms about you but the space beside you is empty and you know in your heart that he is with someone else.  You cry yourself to sleep knowing you have to let him go but not having the courage to do it.
Women often feel they need a man even when that man turns out to be a source of unhappiness.  The truth is you don’t need someone in your life who is making you unhappy.  You cannot rely on someone else to make you happy.  You are the author and creator of your happiness.  You cannot leave it in someone else’s hands!
If a man loves, respect and cares about his woman, chances are he will not cheat on her.  If he does not love, care for and respect you then you need to let him go.  There are times in life when you have to compromise but this is not one of those times.  If he is cheating on you and refuses to stop you need to show him the door because you don’t need him anymore than he needs you.  You certainly do not need to put yourself at risk for STD’s especially HIV and AIDS.  If you man is playing around he is not just messing with your heart, he could be messing with your life as well.
In my next post I will tell you about one woman who compromised and paid for it with her life.  Be wise, stay strong , love yourself and accept nothing less than you deserve!  Take control of your relationship today!
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Inextinguishable,
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A small spark,
A slow flame,
And then a blazing furnace,
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