Category: Relationships

Man Kills Daughter for Dating a Muslim

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A few weeks ago an Israeli Christian reportedly stabbed his seventeen year old daughter to death because he did not approve of her relationship with a Muslim man. Henriette Karra was killed in her family home a day after her high school graduation.

Before her murder she had reportedly left the family home to after abuse and threats from her parents and stayed part-time with her boyfriend’s parents. Her family proceeded to use threats to get her back home. After a meeting with a social worker she returned home. She is said to have told a family member that she was ready to convert to Islam. On learning this information the father stabbed her to death. He was arrested.

The question one must ask is which is worse her dating a Muslim or he murdering her. The things people do simply boggles the mind.

Respect Each Other

As women we need to look out for, and support each other. Never contribute to the breakdown of another woman’s marriage. Never be part of the reason why someone else relationship didn’t work out. Respect another woman’s relationship in the same way you would want her to respect yours. Together we are stronger. #WomenUnited

Co-parenting After Separation

Most relationships never end on a good note. Breakups and divorce often bring about feelings of hurt and resentment between parents.

When children are involved parents must put aside their feelings and do what is best for their child or children. They have to try to get along. With good communication issues can be worked out and each parent will be able to keep informed about what is going on in the child’s life. When both parents get along it gives the child a sense of security and it reassures the child that he or she is loved by both parents.

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7 REASONS NOT TO RETURN AN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP

  1. Remember that it was the abusive behavior of your partner which caused you to leave in the first place. You were not happy in the relationship.
  2. He will continue to abuse you even if he promises you that he will never hit you again.
  3. Abusers seldom stop their abusive behavior unless they get some form of counseling or therapy so don’t go back and expect him to change simply because he says he has changed. As soon as he gets comfortable with you being back he will start abusing you again.
  4. Abusers like to instill fear in their victims so he will try to make you so fearful of him that you are less likely to leave him.
  5. He may become more possessive and controlling and try to make you more isolated from your family and friends. He might start keeping tabs on you, watching you more closely for any sign that you might try to leave again.
  6. He may do everything within his power to make it impossible for you to leave again. He might even threaten to take your life.
  7. The most serious of all the reasons is that he may follow through on his threats. You may never get the chance to escape a second time with your life. Some abusers are prepared to take your life and then theirs.

Once you get the chance to leave the relationship never return to an abusive partner no matter how persuasive he may be.

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Dealing With Infidelity 

Are you in a relationship where you feel as if you are giving one hundred percent and he is only giving fifty?  That is probably because he is giving another woman that other fifty.  Infidelity is one of the major cause of problems in relationships.  There is a tendency for both of the sexes to cheat and when there is no trust in a relationship it is destined for failure.

As a woman how do you deal with the fact that your partner is cheating on you?  Do you confront him, make him know you won’t stand for it, give him an ultimatum wherein he has to choose you or go out the door?  Or are you so afraid you might lose him that you turn a blind eye, suffer silently and tell yourself that you would rather share him than lose him?  The fact is if you are sharing him with someone else you are half-way on the road to losing him anyway.  What is the point in prolonging your unhappiness?

You might be so afraid of losing him that you try to convince yourself that you can deal with it.   But why lie to yourself?  You lie awake at night wondering where he is, who he is with and what he is doing.  You want to feel his arms about you but the space beside you is empty and you know in your heart that he is with someone else.  You cry yourself to sleep knowing you have to let him go but not having the courage to do it.

Women often feel they need a man even when that man turns out to be a source of unhappiness.  The truth is you don’t need someone in your life who is making you unhappy.  You cannot rely on someone else to make you happy.  You are the author and creator of your happiness.  You cannot leave it in someone else’s hands!

If a man loves, respect and cares about his woman, chances are he will not cheat on her.  If he does not love, care for and respect you then you need to let him go.  There are times in life when you have to compromise but this is not one of those times.  If he is cheating on you and refuses to stop you need to show him the door because you don’t need him anymore than he needs you.  You certainly do not need to put yourself at risk for STD’s especially HIV and AIDS.  If you man is playing around he is not just messing with your heart, he could be messing with your life as well.

In my next post I will tell you about one woman who compromised and paid for it with her life.  Be wise, stay strong , love yourself and accept nothing less than you deserve!  Take control of your relationship today!

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Some Abusers are like Chameleons

You cannot just look at a man and tell that he is an abuser. Sometimes they are the most unsuspecting people you will ever meet. It could be that man who is always cordial and greets you with a smile. It can be that deacon who prays the loudest and the longest in church on Sundays. It can be that man who always seems helpful. Most abusers like to be liked and they can be quite charming. It is this charm that often draws women in.

In public he may treat his woman like a queen because he wants people to have a good impression of him. It is behind closed doors that the monster in him rears its ugly head and he becomes a different person. There is  no one for him to impress and he becomes her worst nightmare. He often sets the stage so that people might not even believe her if she tells them what he is truly like. It is easy to get in his grasp but hard to get out because he likes control and he thinks he is clever. The woman has no choice but to seek people who she can trust and plan her escape.

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Isolation

One of the signs to look for that might serve as an indication that your man may be setting you up for abuse is isolation. A man who loves you and have your best interest at heart will not force you to choose between him and your friends or your family. If he does this it is for an ulterior motive.

I recall the abusive boyfriend of a friend bragging to me that her family was telling her to leave him but she wouldn’t. He said that she didn’t care about her family, that she loved him and would do anything he told her to do. He was gloating….so proud of himself. 

This is the mindset of some abusers, they want you all to themselves so that you are cut off from both family and friends. When he starts to abuse you there is often no one left for you to turn to. Women empower yourselves, watch out for these signs and don’t ignore the red flags.

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Does he try to control you?

One of the most important thing in a relationship is for a woman to never lose her individuality or her independence. She should be able to make important decisions for herself and not allow her partner to make those decisions for her.

Once you see that your partner is trying to control who you see, where you go and what you do there is cause for alarm. This is not normal behavior and you should never accept it because before you know it he will take full control of your life. Talk to him about it and tell him how you feel. If he reacts with aggression and insists on controlling you then you need to rethink the relationship.

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Keep the Conversation Going

An Open Letter to Men
From Women Against Domestic Violence
Dear Men:
It is with tears in our eyes and fear for our lives that we pen this note to you. Domestic violence has taken the lives of many of our sisters leaving many of our homes broken and our children motherless. Men we need you to understand that we are not the enemy so stop treating us like one. We give to you our love, our passion, our understanding and compassion, we trust you with our lives and all we ask is that you reciprocate and treat us right. Don’t see our love for you as a weakness, don’t leave us with cuts and bruises, don’t crush out our joy and leave us broken. You see men you need to understand that love is not supposed to hurt. If your love is causing your woman hurt then it means that you are doing something wrong. Any boy can hurt a woman but it takes a man to make her happy. So the next time you raise your hand to hit a woman stop and ask yourself am I a boy or am I a man. Treat women with love and respect….Be A Man!

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Never Get Involved With a Married Man

You would think that the fact that he is married would be a deterrent but despite this a lot of women get involved with married men and hang on to the hope that one day he will leave his wife.

Many women fall victims to the lie told to them by these men. Often times a man will make his wife out to be the problem in the relationship and offer the other woman hope that he will get a divorce. Some women are foolish enough to spend years waiting for him to be free, not grasping the fact that he has no intention of leaving home. Even if he does leave home what guarantee do you have that he wont do to you what he did to her. If he is married he is off limit so leave him alone.