My message today is for you to stop playing the victim card. Instead of accepting your role as the victim of a relationship ask yourself, how can I take back control of my life?
My belief is that God did not create anyone so weak that he or she lack the strength to deal with life. Change your mindset and think VICTOR instead of VICTIM. Think I CAN instead of I CAN’T.
I am telling you today that you possess the strength within you. Dig deep, find it and change your life.
Does he try to control you?
One of the most important thing in a relationship is for a woman to never lose her individuality or her independence. She should be able to make important decisions for herself and not allow her partner to make those decisions for her.
Once you see that your partner is trying to control who you see, where you go and what you do there is cause for alarm. This is not normal behavior and you should never accept it because before you know it he will take full control of your life. Talk to him about it and tell him how you feel. If he reacts with aggression and insists on controlling you then you need to rethink the relationship.
The mistake many of us make is to expect someone to come into our lives and make us happy. The key to happiness is to realize that no owes us any obligation to make us happy. We must take control over our lives and do not rely too heavily on someone else for happiness. Often after a breakup people hold on to the hurt and pain of the failed relationship. Unhappiness becomes a way of life and there is no moving forward.
We have to understand that people will disappoint us, they will betray and hurt us. But we must refuse to let them take our joy. Promise yourself that you will choose happiness in spite of situations that are beyond your control. Trust God and know that he will not allow the person who cause you pain to live happily ever after while you live in misery.
You know this brings to memory something which happened some years ago. There was this man who was with his girlfriend since they were back in high school. She bore him four children. He left her when their last child was about four months old and married another woman. He said she was making him not able to save any money. He kept making babies…what did he expect.
Any way he went on with his new life with the christian woman he had married taking better care of her two children than he was taking care of his own children. I guess happily ever after was all he saw on horizon. However it was not long after…maybe a year when he got in trouble at work He got fired from his job and attempted suicide. My point is you cannot expect to live a happy life by causing pain to others. What you give is what you will eventually receive. So Live, Love, Forgive and be Happy.