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Empowering Women

Relationships

Two things that may hold a woman back is self-doubt and low expectations. Often times in relationships a woman gives her all trying to please her man without understanding that she deserves his all in return. She gives a hundred percent of her love only to have it taken for granted.

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A woman who lives with self-doubt and believes that she has no choice but to settle will live a life filled with disappointments. She needs to understand that she deserves as much happiness as her man. She needs to know that she should never accept anything less than she deserves.                                               

The Strength of a Woman

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Empowering Women

The First Lady

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Michelle Obama is one of the most extraordinary women to have ever graced The White House. Her beauty, intellect, charisma, and gracefulness speaks much about her character. She reaches across class barriers and makes people feel at ease with her vibrant and welcoming personality. She exudes an aura of confidence and an understanding of her role as a woman with a voice and one who is never afraid to stand up for what she believes in. She is someone who we as women can emulate. She was like a breath of fresh air in The White House and many of us will miss her when she is gone.

WHEN WILL WOMEN GET JUSTICE

We talk daily about stemming the spate of violence against women. We pay lip service about punishing offenders, but when is justice really served. When a judge sentences a privileged white man to six months in prison for brutally raping a woman what message is that sending to others like him?

The Judge in the Brock Turner case was more concerned about his welfare than that of the woman he raped. He is reported to have said “A prison sentence would have a severe impact on him…I think he will not be a danger to others.”  So you the judge who women are looking to for justice is concerned about the impact prison will have on this convicted rapist. What about the indelible mark this man has left on this woman’s life. What about her physical, emotional and mental scars; her life will never be this same again.

This is a national disgrace. There should be one set of rules for all whether you are white or black or rich or poor. The privileged few should not be allowed to live above the law; there should be justice for all. Once again I have to ask, WHEN WILL WOMEN GET JUSTICE?

Women sentenced to rape in india

I came across this news story recently and was appalled and disgusted that

Men in India have so little respect for the women there that they would

see rape as justifiable punishment.

The sisters were sentenced by elders of a village council to be raped

after their brother had an affair and ran off with a married woman.

For women in India rape is a part of their culture and rapes occur daily.

After much protest in India and the intervention of Amnesty International

the village council has since denied making the ruling.

The question still remains, how long will the Government of India

continue to allow women to be raped, abused and murdered without

doing anything to protect them.

11 Year-old Rape Victim Gives Birth in Paraguay

The story of an eleven year-old girl in Paraguay giving birth by cesarean section is a heart-wrenching one. The little girl, a victim of rape was denied an abortion because Paraguayan strict abortion laws would not allow it.

The girl 42 year-old stepfather was arrested and charged with rape and abuse. The girl’s mother was also charged with child neglect and complicity.

It is disheartening to know that this child had to endure so much trauma. She suffered sexual abuse which goes back as far as 2013 with no one to protect her. Now she has motherhood thrust upon her without getting the chance to enjoy her childhood.

One must question how much Paraguay is doing to protect the rights of children. Reports states that about 684 girls between the ages of 10-14 gave birth in 2014. Most of them were victims of sexual abuse. Help Save our girls. Fight against child abuse.

Relationships

Financial Security

Women are very trusting and are often taken advantage of. Many take it for granted that their partners will stand by them and take care of their finances so they have nothing to worry about. This is a false sense of security.

Every woman must ensure her financial security. Do not leave it up to the man, you need your financial independence. It is okay to have a joint account but you also need a separate account for yourself. It is not that your don’t trust him but it is good to have something of your own that you can fall back on just in case.

Always ensure that any property that you acquire together have both your names on it and not just his. Trust is a good thing but when things go wrong that is the time when you realize that trust is not enough. Always get something in writing to back up your claims or you might not have a leg to stand on.

Say NO to Domestic Abuse

The month of October is designated Domestic Violence Awareness month.  Domestic Violence is a global issue and as the month come to a close it is very important that everyone continue to be mindful and continue to spread awareness so that one day this vicious cycle of abuse will end.

Each year thousands of women across the world die as a result of domestic violence and other forms of physical abuse.  There are thousands who continue to suffer on a daily basis.  The fight against domestic violence like the fight against drug addiction often seem like a losing battle but we must do everything in our powers to end this malady.

Domestic violence is the leading cause of death among women.  In many countries there are laws to protect women against abuse but sometimes these laws are not enforced.  In counties which enforce the laws the fight against domestic violence is still very complex as it is often very difficult to identify someone who is going to snap and kill his partner.  Often it is only the person suffering the abuse and those in the household where it is taking place who knows about it.

The violent nature of their partners leave some women trapped in their relationships immobilized by the fear of what will happen should they attempt to leave.  These fears are justified as statistics shows that seventy-five percent of women killed by their partners lost their lives after ending their relationships.

The journey to end domestic violence against women must begin with women being aware of thing to look out for in an abuser and take measures to avoid these situations.  Abuse of any form is not a normal part of a relationship and is therefore not acceptable.

Stop Abuse of Women

Never Return to an Abusive Partner

In an abusive relationship the woman often have no choice but to leave her abusive partner.  While you may feel relieved and happy to be out of the unhappy relationship, do not become complacent.  You need to be vigilant.  It is often after the woman leaves that she becomes more at risk for losing her life.

In most abusive relationship the main aim of the man is to control the woman.  When the woman leaves he no longer has that control and he may go to the extreme to make sure that the woman does not have a life without him.  When you leave an abusive partner always bear in mind the fact that your life could possible be in danger and take the necessary precautions to ensure your safety.

If children are involved you may have no choice but to remain in touch with him for the sake of the children.  It is best however not to meet with him alone or if you have to make sure you do so in an environment where people are around.  Never meet with him in a deserted or secluded area.

Just recently on August 14 in my home town Port Antonio, Jamaica  twenty-two year old woman, Jessica King, lost her life to domestic violence.  The man who took her life was a twenty-three year old police officer.  This was someone who took an oath of office to serve and protect citizens.  Instead of protecting he turned his weapon on a defenseless, unharmed woman and snuffed out her life.

It is reported that the two were having problems in their relationship and the young woman had moved out of the home they shared and was staying elsewhere.  According to a relative on the day of her death she received a phone call that morning from her estranged boyfriend requesting her to see him.  She apparently went to the Errol Flynn Marine to meet him not knowing she was walking to her death.

An eyewitness said the police man first hugged her and then proceeded to pump four bullets into her.  She died on the spot.  He then turned the gun on himself, shooting himself three times in a suicide attempt.   Since the incident he has been released from hospital and will stand trial for murder.  Relatives of  Jessica said was killed because she wanted to end the relationship with the police officer.  

Stop Abuse of Women

One Sign That he may be an Abuser  “ISOLATION”

A majority of women get into relationships having no idea that their intended partners are abusers.  This happens because you cannot tell that a man is an abuser simply by looking at him.  He often appears to be your regular nice guy.  He puts on the charm.  He wines and dine you and make you feel important.  He says the right words that you want to hear.

However charming he may appear at first be careful and take nothing for granted.  Keep your eyes open for any warning signs that he may not be all that he wants you to believe that he is because he could be an abuser.

One of the first signs to watch for is ‘Isolation’.  One of the first things he may try to do is isolate you from your friends and relatives.  If he wants you to cut ties with your friends don’t for one moment believe that he is thinking of your best interest.  If he tries to keep you away from your family or try to make you choose between your family and him be warned; he is up to no good.  He could be setting the stage for abuse!

When he gets you in a position where you are isolated from your family and friends it gives him power over you because when the abuse starts you will find yourself alone with no one to come to your aid and that is exactly what he wants.  Do not ignore that first clue!