Stop Abuse of Women

Stop Abuse of Women

Abuse of women is a form of human rights violation that affects women just about every where in the world.  Ironically one of the thing which contributes to   abuse is the lack of unity among women and the fact that in some societies women actually take part in abusing other women.  In places such as India and Pakistan mother-in-laws and sister-in-laws often beat and torture a new bride if they are not satisfied with the dowry that the family receives.  There is no unity among the sisterhood and they see nothing wrong with hurting one of their kind.

In countries where Female Genital Mutilation is practiced, it is often the women who carry out this gruesome operation.  In the Cameroon and other places that practice breast ironing it is the women who hurt their daughters and inflict physical as well as psychological scars.  Women disfigure and hurt their daughters in what they say is an attempt to protect them from rape and harassment by men.  These women fail to grasp the understanding that what they are doing is just another form of abuse.  It is a no win situation for many young girls; if the men don’t hurt them, their mothers will.

One of the biggest obstacle in eliminating abuse against women worldwide is the fact that in many countries women have been conditioned to accept abuse as a part of life.  Women suffer abuse in forced marriages and do nothing  to protect their daughters from experiencing the same fate.  So the vicious cycle of abuse is allowed to continue.  For many young girls there is no escape, no way out.  There is no one to stand up for them and no one to protect them.

The change must start with women taking responsibility for protecting their daughters instead of hurting them.  Women must unity in the fight for equal rights for women.  Young girls must no longer be denied the right to an education and they should not be forced into child marriages for which they are not prepared physically, mentally or emotionally.  Women must understand that abuse of any form is not acceptable.

Stop Abuse of Women

Stop Abuse of Women

Punished for Being Beautiful
She is beautiful and she is so afraid,
In a perfect world her beauty would be a blessing,
But in her world it is something of a curse.
Boys will look at her,
Men will lust after her,
And for this she is punished.
Hot, searing iron is thrust into her breasts,
Her womanhood has to be disguised,
She is told It is for her own protection.
She carries the horror of this torture in her heart,
She wonders who will protect her,
From the pain of the hot iron being thrust into her breasts.
Who will protect her from the psychological scars
And from the physical pain,
Who will protect her from the distress
When she looks in the mirror and sees
Her scarred disfigured breasts.
She cries silently into her pillow
And she wonders is her pain will ever end.

 

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Bride Burning

Violence against women takes various forms, from Acid Throwing, Female Genital Mutilation, to Torture and Murder.  One of the most heinous of these crimes is Bride Burning.  It is practiced in India, Pakistan and Bangladesh.  The crime is often staged to appear as an accident or suicide.  The victims are usually newly married women whose parents do not have the money to pay off the husband‘s dowry requirements.  The perpetrators are usually the husband’s family or the husband himself. 
Women in these countries do not get much support from their male counterpart.  The husband’s family will harass, threaten and sometimes kill the bride if her family cannot come up with the money or gifts .  With the new wife out-of-the-way , the husband is free to remarry and get a new dowry from his new bride.  In 2010 there were 8391 reported cases of dowry deaths in India alone.
In Pakistan although divorce is possible, it is claimed that some families decide instead to murder unwanted wives.  In most cases of bride burning the woman is doused with kerosene, the helpless defenseless woman is then set on fire and is burned alive.  The deaths are often reported as accidents.  In many cases the police are told the victim was killed by an exploding stove and there is no prosecution. They opt for burning because the chances of prosecution is less.
Bride burning is a wicked, barbaric act.  It is one of the most gruesome forms of human rights violation.
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Happy International Women’s Day

Happy International Women’s Day to all the women around the world. As we celebrate this day let us all stand in solidarity to put an end to abuse against women. We must say no to Female Genital Mutilation, Child Marriages, Dowry Killings, Breast Ironing, Rape, Domestic Abuse and all other forms of abuse against women.  It is time for governments around the world to properly enforce the laws to protect women.  It is time for not just talk but for action as well.

 

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Stop Breast Ironing

Young girls in many countries around the world suffer greatly each year from abuse of one form or another.  What is ironic is that in many instances adults believe that what they do is in the best interest of the girls.

There is Female Genital mutilation; a barbaric act of which for most part entail partial of full removal of a woman’s clitoris.  Sex for such a woman, instead of being an expression of love between two people can become a source of pain which she has to endure.  The procedure done without anesthetic and often times without using sterile instruments may result in fatal hemorrhaging or the  risks of serious infections.  This procedure does not benefit women in any way.  It is done to suppress a girl’s sexual feelings, to prevent her from being promiscuous, maintain her virginity until marriage and uphold the family honor.  Upholding the family honor is more important than the health and happiness of girls in countries that practices female genital mutilation.

In some countries there is forced child marriages which basically sentences young girls to a life of misery.  Most live their life in poverty. They are denied educational opportunities, and suffer from poor health, sexual and other forms of abuse. Most of them spend their lives trapped in loveless marriages with men who are often strangers.

 Parents say they do it to protect the girls.  Her husband will protect her from getting raped and he will take care of her.  If this is so, why are there so many horror stories?  The man who they feel will protect, often is the one who her rapist.  She is made to work like a hired help and suffers abuse not only at the hands of her husband but from her in-laws as well.  Although parents are aware of what is happening they continue to marry off their underage daughters because it is never about what the girls want for their lives.  Their happiness is not taken into consideration.  It is about culture and traditions and maintaining the family honor.

What is very worrisome is the fact that the list of abuses against girls and women get longer the deeper you delve.  In the Cameroon their form of abuse is  breast ironing. This particular form of abuse is shrouded in secrecy, not many want to talk about it, but behind closed doors Cameroon girls are suffering torture at the hands of their own mothers.  Breast ironing is done to stop the development of breasts and delay any sign that a girl is developing into an adult. 

Cameroon mothers say they iron their daughters breast to protect them from sexual harassment and rape, and to prevent early pregnancy that would tarnish the family name.. They also want their daughters to pursue an education rather than be forced into an early marriage.

They use objects such as grinding stones, coconut shells, leaves, ladles, spatulas and hammers heated over burning coal.  The hot object is used to press and massage the breasts to flatten them to stop their development.  This they feel will make the girls less attractive to boys and men.

Breast ironing is extremely painful and can cause tissue damage.  There are no medical studies on its effects but medical experts warn that it might contribute towards breast cancer and perhaps interfere with breast-feeding later.  Other possible side effects include breast infections, the formation of abscesses and malformed breasts.  It can lead to permanent damage to the milk ducts and even complete disappearance of one or both breasts.  The girls end up with marks, wrinkles and black spots on their breasts.

 Breast ironing violates the fundamental rights of girls and women – the right to health, physical integrity and freedom from torture.  It does not prevent premarital pregnancy which is on the rise,  accounting for 30% of pregnancies according to local health workers.  This is due to a lack of sex education.  The sex talk and not torture will be more beneficial to Cameroon girls.

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What is Female Genital Mutilation

Female genital mutilation is a painful operation during which the female genitals are partial or entirely removed or injured.  The whole purpose of this operation is to inhibit the woman’s sexual desires.
There are three main types of female genital mutilation practiced, type 1, 2 and 3.
Type 1     The clitoral hood is removed and most time this is accompanied by the clitoris itself.
Type 2     This involves the removal of the clitoris and the inner labia.
Type 3     Removal of all or part of the inner and outer labia and usually the clitoris and the fusion of the wound leaving a small hole for the passage of
urine and menstrual blood.  The fused wound is opened for intercourse and childbirth.
Type one and two are more commonly practiced.

 

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Stop Abuse of Women

Stop Abuse of Women

Female Genital Mutilation

 

The World Health Organization estimates that between 100 million and 140 million women and girls world wide  have been subjected to female genital mutilation.  The report states that about three million girls are at risk each year.

The purpose of female genital mutilation is to curb the sexual desire of the girl or woman and preserve her sexual honor before marriage..  They see this as a way of guaranteeing her virginity and fidelity.  The mutilation is irreversible and the procedure is extremely painful.

FGM is practiced in  Egypt, Somalia, Yemen, Mali, Sudan, Guinea, Djibouti, Mauritania and others.  Knives, scissors, scalpels, pieces of glass and razor blades are often used and often times these instruments are not sterile.  What is even more troubling is that the procedure is often done without anesthetic.

The practice has dreadful consequences.  Mortality rate is high and the survivors suffer their whole lives from the psychological and medical consequences of the operation.  They are traumatized and suffer from health issues during marriage and pregnancy.  Most endure rather than enjoy sex.  Female Genital Mutilation must stop.  No woman should have to endure this horrible form of abuse.