Tag: Women

Enslaved

I look at her battered, bruised face,
And she quickly looks away,
“I fell,” she responded, to the unspoken question,
And yet she wouldn’t look my way.
Caught up in a situation of physical abuse
Why did she think she had to stay?
“Leave him,” I told her,
And she pretended not to understand.
“I fell,” she repeated,
Trying to convince me,
Trying to convince herself.
“You don’t deserve this,” I told her,
“He loves me,” she says.
“No,” I tell her,
“Love is not supposed to hurt.”
She nods her head as if agreeing with me,
And yet I wonder,
Does she really understand?

In the US between 1000-1600 women die each year as a result of domestic violence.  It is time to take charge and make changes don’t allow yourself to become part of the statistic for 2013.  Engage in health and fulfilling relationships.  Learn to recognize signs of abuse and remove yourself before you get trapped in a life of physical abuse.

Say NO to Physical Abuse

Warning Signs That Your Man Could be an Abuser

Violent Temper and Sudden Mood Changes

If your man display violent behavior and has problems controlling his temper when dealing with others, pay attention.  If he was abusive in a previous relationship, this is a warning sign that you should not ignore.  You must also note that when he hits you he may try to make light of the situation.  A friend of mine once  came to me complaining that his girlfriend had left him.  I of course asked him why.  He said they had gotten into and argument and he accidentally hit her.

As the saying goes there are two sides to every story.  His girlfriend who was also a friend of mine told me what really happened.  She had gone to a work related function and was late in returning home.  He had come in search of her and met her on her way back home.  Without any provocation, perhaps just being angry by the fact that she was late, he punched her.  The blow left her unconscious and regained consciousness in the hospital.  She left him.  He could have killed her.  She said she wasn’t going back because the next time she might not that lucky. She never took him back, and who could blame her?  Yet this is the mistake many women make, going back to their partners after being physically abused by them.

If he is loving and charming when people are around then becomes hostile and abusive when you are alone, do not ignore the changes in his behavior.  Abusive men pick the time and place to  carry out their abuse.  They are often very charming when others are around to observe them, but become a different person behind closed doors.  Some abusers seem to have split personality.  In public they have this desire to be seen as Mr. Nice guy and it is this nice guy attitude which might charm a woman into falling for him.  However when you are alone with him behind closed doors and you see his true character emerging, do not hesitate or second guess your self; end the relationship.  The longer you remain the more difficult it will be for you to extricate yourself.

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Say No to Physical Abuse

 Violence against women and children is a problem faced by countries world-wide.  Data shows that up to 70 percent of women experience physical or sexual abuse in their lifetime.  The perpetrators are often husbands, intimate partners or someone they know.  Violence against women and children is perhaps one of the worst kind of human rights violation that we know today.  It is responsible for more deaths than cancer, malaria, traffic accident and war combined.  Domestic abuse occurs just about everywhere in society.  There is no race, class or socioeconomic barrier.  There is no country on this earth which can declare itself free from the scourge of domestic violence.

 Physical abuse occurs on a day-to-day basis in many homes but often times only get public attention when someone dies or is seriously injured.  In many domestic homicide it is usually a case of murder suicide.  Sometimes children in the household lose their lives while others are left orphans.  Domestic violence has a lasting negative effect on children.  According to UNICEF those who experienced childhood domestic violence are 50 times  more likely to abuse drugs and alcohol, six times more likely to commit suicide, seventy-four times more likely to commit a serious crime against another and three more times likely to repeat the cycle.

This is a very serious situation which needs addressing.  A way must be found to break this vicious cycle.  We need to pay close attention to children and how these relationships affect them.  They need to understand that physical abuse in a  relationship is not healthy  and must not be accepted as the norm.     A healthy relationship is one in which people care for and treat each other right.  It is about loving one another not hurting each other.

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The Other Woman

It was fun being the other woman,

It was exciting taking someone else man,

The mistake she made was marrying him,

For now she truly understand the saying,

what goes around comes around.

The tables have turned and now she is the one,

who has to compete with the other woman!