Tag: Suicide

Things I Wished I Could Have Told Them

This week a story surfaced on face book about a young couple. The girlfriend who was apparently pregnant according to news stories killed herself in her dorm room. Her boyfriend who thought he was been unfairly blamed for her death killed himself a few days later.

I wished I could have told her that there is no problem in life that was worth taking her life. I wish I could have told her that she would get through it. I wish I could have told her its okay not to be perfect. I wish I could have told her to stay strong and not give up hope. I wish I could have told her that there was light ahead of the tunnel and with the help of God it would all work out right. There are so many things I wished I could have told her even though I didn’t know her. But now all I can say is “Rest In Peace.”

I Wished I could have told him that it wasn’t his fault. I wish I could have told him that somebody cared. I wish I could have told him that the pain in his heart would lessen with time.  I wished I could have told him that the storm would pass and someday life would again have meaning. I watched his video with tears in my eyes and my heart ached to see the anguish he was in. There are so many things I wished I could have told him even though I didn’t know him. But now all I can say is Rest in Peace…..

Parents, love your children hold them, hug them and let them know that no matter what problems they face in life you will be there for them and you will help them get through it. It is a terrible thing for a parent to have to bury a child.

Take Control of Your Happiness

The mistake many of us make is to expect someone to come into our lives and make us happy. The key to happiness is to realize that no owes us any obligation to make us happy. We must take control over our lives and do not rely too  heavily on someone else for happiness. Often after a breakup people hold on to the hurt and pain of the failed relationship. Unhappiness becomes a way of life and there is no moving forward.

We have to understand that people will disappoint us, they will betray and hurt us. But we must refuse to let them take our joy. Promise yourself that you will choose happiness in spite of situations that are beyond your control. Trust God and know that he will not allow the person who cause you pain to live happily ever after while you live in misery.

You know this brings to memory something which happened some years ago. There was this man who was with his girlfriend since they were back in high school. She bore him four children. He left her when their last child was about four months old and married another woman. He said she was making him not able to save any money. He kept making babies…what did he expect.

Any way he went on with his new life with the christian woman he had married taking better care of her two children than he was taking care of his own children. I guess happily ever after was all he saw on horizon. However it was not long after…maybe a year when he got in trouble at work  He got fired from his job and attempted suicide. My point is you cannot expect to live a happy life by causing pain to others. What you give is what you will eventually receive.  So Live, Love, Forgive and be Happy.

Death of Robin Williams

Today we continue to mourn the death of Robin Williams. It is believed that the actor may have committed suicide. I for one was saddened and shocked by the news of his death. He was a great actor and such a comedian. He was able to make so many of us smile and we will always remember those moments.  His death however drives home some serious truths – Success does not guarantee happiness. It does not automatically give you a life devoid of problems. It also emphasizes the importance of paying closer attention to our loved ones who are having problems and never assume that they will never take their lives. Let us all play our part to help prevent suicide.

I hope the press will not delve too deep in his private life just to make sensational news.  Instead let us all remember the Robin Williams we all knew, the man who entertained us and made us smile.

Gone too soon, but we will always remember you. Perhaps you didn’t know it but you were dearly loved. The demons that you fought you will have to fight no more. Enjoy your sleep and may your soul Rest In Peace.

Prank Call May be Responsible For Nurse Death

There is a saying ‘What is joke to you is death to me’.  This saying was illustrated recently when a London-based nurse committed suicide after DJs pulled off a royal hospital prank call.

The DJs, posing as Queen Elizabeth and Prince Charles called the hospital, tricking nurses into divulging information about Kate Middleton, the Duchess of Cambridge’s pregnancy.  A recording of the call was posted on the internet and played on television and radio stations around the world.  The humiliation caused by this may have driven Nurse Jacintha Saldanha to commit suicide.

It was a very selfish and irresponsible act on the path of these two Australian DJs to carry out this prank without giving any thought or consideration of how it would affect the people involved.  They were interested in only one thing and that was to make the news and be in the spotlight, but at what cost?

As a result of their actions a woman is dead; two children have lost a mother, a man has lost his partner and a family is left in mourning.  DJs you made the news but I have one question for you, was it worth it?

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Say No to Physical Abuse

 Violence against women and children is a problem faced by countries world-wide.  Data shows that up to 70 percent of women experience physical or sexual abuse in their lifetime.  The perpetrators are often husbands, intimate partners or someone they know.  Violence against women and children is perhaps one of the worst kind of human rights violation that we know today.  It is responsible for more deaths than cancer, malaria, traffic accident and war combined.  Domestic abuse occurs just about everywhere in society.  There is no race, class or socioeconomic barrier.  There is no country on this earth which can declare itself free from the scourge of domestic violence.

 Physical abuse occurs on a day-to-day basis in many homes but often times only get public attention when someone dies or is seriously injured.  In many domestic homicide it is usually a case of murder suicide.  Sometimes children in the household lose their lives while others are left orphans.  Domestic violence has a lasting negative effect on children.  According to UNICEF those who experienced childhood domestic violence are 50 times  more likely to abuse drugs and alcohol, six times more likely to commit suicide, seventy-four times more likely to commit a serious crime against another and three more times likely to repeat the cycle.

This is a very serious situation which needs addressing.  A way must be found to break this vicious cycle.  We need to pay close attention to children and how these relationships affect them.  They need to understand that physical abuse in a  relationship is not healthy  and must not be accepted as the norm.     A healthy relationship is one in which people care for and treat each other right.  It is about loving one another not hurting each other.

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