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PARENTING

Children Learn What They Live
By Dorothy Law Nolte, Ph.D.

 

 

If children live with criticism, they learn to condemn.
If children live with hostility, they learn to fight.
If children live with fear, they learn to be apprehensive.
If children live with pity, they learn to feel sorry for themselves.
If children live with ridicule, they learn to feel shy.
If children live with jealousy, they learn to feel envy.
If children live with shame, they learn to feel guilty.
If children live with encouragement, they learn confidence.
If children live with tolerance, they learn patience.
If children live with praise, they learn appreciation.
If children live with acceptance, they learn to love.
If children live with approval, they learn to like themselves.
If children live with recognition, they learn it is good to have a goal.
If children live with sharing, they learn generosity.
If children live with honesty, they learn truthfulness.
If children live with fairness, they learn justice.
If children live with kindness and consideration, they learn respect.
If children live with security, they learn to have faith in themselves and in those about them.
If children live with friendliness, they learn the world is a nice place in which to live.

Parenting

Today is my daughter’s birthday.  She is twelve years old today and already the rebellion is beginning to set in.  You know that point in time when they want to have their own way; spend too much time on the computer or watching television, wanting to stay up late on a school night when they should be in bed with the promise that, ‘I’m going to wake up early’, when you know fully well that they can’t.  She is crazy about music videos, she loves to rap and she will spend hours on the computer if you are not firm with her; once she gets in front of the computer she doesn’t want to get up and that’s where we don’t see eye to eye most of the time.  So what do you do in situations like this?  You have to set rules!  Children need rules to guide them they adapt to situations better when they know just what is expected of them.   So on school night she is allowed one hour on the computer; on weekends…well we are still trying to work that out.  The bottom line is to set rules, they might not like it, they might not think it’s fair, but in the end years from now they might thank you for it.

Mother At Sixteen

She was looking lost and forlorn,
frail body slouching forward,
holding tightly at the young child in her arms.
The baby was crying, she attempted to feed him,
but from the white cracks on her lips,
and her sunken eyes, you couldn’t help but wonder,
if she wasn’t hungry too.

She looked around anxiously,
as if expecting someone,
The shadows of evening are lengthening,
and she is all alone at the train station,
She is alone with her baby and a bag by her feet,
which holds all her earthly possessions.

Her mother’s harsh words still echoed in her ears,
‘Go find you baby father, find the man who breed you,
I can’t afford to take care a you an no baby!”
He said he would come, he said he would meet her here.
That was two days ago.
And here she was, still alone at the train station,
Just sixteen years old,
Alone and scared, with nowhere to go!