Self love is important. In order for others to love you, you must first love yourself unconditionally. When you love yourself you set the stage for others to love you. You are also more likely to grasp the concept that you are deserving of love and you are less likely to allow others to treat you in a manner less than you deserve.
“Every woman needs these three things: Self-Esteem, Self-Love, and Self-Confidence. A female that possess all three is an empowered and unstoppable Queen. She knows her worth! Everything about her represents quality. Her happiness comes from within, first. She respects herself. She values who she is. She’s not easily impressed or persuaded by people or things. She has purpose and direction! An admirable being is what she is: Extraordinary and highly desirable. She’s an Unparalleled Woman.”
― Stephanie Lahart
To begin to live is to accept yourself with all your faults, flaws, insecurities and doubts. Take them and channel them into something greater.
Let your faults teach you that no one is perfect.
Let your flaws be a reminder that we all have issues.
Let your insecurities teach you that we all are vulnerable.
Let not doubt make you feel like a failure,instead let it be a guide to make you question the authenticity of a situation before you jump in.
Take the things that others consider negative and turn them into something positive. Live, laugh, love and forgive. Be happy.
Society in general and the media in particular have a profound impact on the way people live their lives. Some people depend entirely on others to dictate to them what is wrong and what is right. For example society try to impose on people the idea of what a right body type is. Where it involves people who lack confidence about the way they look or dislike the body they are in this may impact more seriously on them than others.
The thigh gap has gained popularity among young women some of whom perhaps lack confidence in their appearance. Some of these women are practically starving themselves so they get so thin that their thighs do not touch when they stand. This is the coveted thigh gap. Many anorexic looking images are floating around on the internet of those who have achieved the thigh gap. One can only hope that these women do not develop serious health issues.
It is unfortunate and sad that so many young women lack self-confidence and are so ready to conform to the views of others. I say to these women create your own reality and stop looking to others for validation. If someone’s idea of sexy is making herself so thin that she acquires a thigh gap, it does not have to be yours. Do not live your life based on the conviction of another person because what makes that person happy will not necessarily make you happy.
Happiness comes from within and you can embark on the journey for happiness by first loving yourself and the body you are in. Be mindful that no one is perfect; we all have flaws. Be aware also that we all have the ability to form our own judgement and make our own decisions. Stop relying on others to make those choices and decisions. God made us all unique so stop trying to be a duplicate of someone else and embrace your uniqueness.