Congratulations Graduates

Its that time of year again – students graduating and moving on. Congrats to my daughter for completing her Associates in Science Degree.  She will be the first one to tell you that it is nothing more than a piece of paper.  Still it is an accomplishment and half way the journey to getting a bachelor.

She also received this plaque from her college very deserving because she is someone who never hesitates to help anyone who asks for help. She always make the time to fit others into her schedule and help them in subject she excels at and they have difficulty in.20150606_125902

She was really thrilled going by the college have someone introduce her to a student and having that person say to her “You are Tresanne, I don’t know you but I know your name from your past papers. Leaving an institution and having people know your name because what you left behind is a good thing.  One of her greatest quality is just being happy for someone when their grades improve and never trying to take credit for it.

Some people when they help others they make to be all about them. If someone has fallen into a pit and you encourage that person to climb out. Give the person credit when they are out, don’t take all the credit. You might have helped but without effort on the part of the individual he or she would remain in that pit.  The lesson here is that if you do good people will know your name without you having to brag about your success.

I am very proud that she was one of the 100 students who were selected to participate in the 2013 NYC Air Flow Subway Test.  The study was done to test the airflow through the subway system. The data collected was to help first responders better understand how airborne contaminants could travel through the system so appropriate emergency responses could be developed.

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That’s her in the glasses with the rest of her team. It was a rigorous exercise and they all did well.

To all 2015 Graduates whatever institution you may be graduating form walk proudly hold your heads up high and aim for new heights. You can achieve your dreams as long as you believe in your self and work towards your goals. When you have achieved your goal remember to reach back and help others.

I leave you with this quote: The things you do for yourself are gone when you are gone, but the things you do for others remain as your legacy.”
― Kalu Ndukwe Kalu

Bruce Jenner Transition

For most of this week a lot of our news headline focused on Bruce Jenner Transition to a woman. It was a media circus and the talk on everyone lips. The media coverage it got would make one thing this was a phenomenal event, a first of it’s kind.

It is somewhat amusing how the media creates little Gods out of those they conceive to be rich and famous and give recognition only to the things that they do. Bruce Jenner did not do anything extraordinary. He simply did something that many before him have done. Frankly my recognition would be given to the first man who took the brave step to transition during the time when it was taboo and looked down on. Many of these individual look much more feminine and less of a drag queen but will never get recognized because they are not rich and famous. In this world of hypocrisy it doesn’t get any better.

Thought For Today

The majority of people have successfully alienated themselves from change; they tediously arrange their lives into a familiar pattern, they give themselves to normalcy, they are proud if they are able to follow in auspicious footsteps set before them, they take pride in always coloring inside the lines and they feel secure if they belong to a batch of others who are like them. Now, if familiar patterns bore you, if normalcy passes before you unnoticed, if you want to create your own footsteps in the earth and leave your own handprints on the skies, if you are the one who doesn’t mind the lines in the coloring book as much as others do, and perchance you do not cling to a flock for you to identify with, then you must be ready for adversity. If you are something extraordinary, you are going to always shock others and while they go about existing in their mundaneness which they call success, you’re going to be flying around crazy in their skies and that scares them. People are afraid of change, afraid of being different, afraid of doing things and thinking things that aren’t a part of their checkerboard game of a life. They only know the pieces and the moves in their games, and that’s it. You’re always going to find them in the place that you think you’re going to find them in, and every time they think about you, you’re going to give them a heart attack.

C. JoyBell C.

Take Control of Your Happiness

The mistake many of us make is to expect someone to come into our lives and make us happy. The key to happiness is to realize that no owes us any obligation to make us happy. We must take control over our lives and do not rely too  heavily on someone else for happiness. Often after a breakup people hold on to the hurt and pain of the failed relationship. Unhappiness becomes a way of life and there is no moving forward.

We have to understand that people will disappoint us, they will betray and hurt us. But we must refuse to let them take our joy. Promise yourself that you will choose happiness in spite of situations that are beyond your control. Trust God and know that he will not allow the person who cause you pain to live happily ever after while you live in misery.

You know this brings to memory something which happened some years ago. There was this man who was with his girlfriend since they were back in high school. She bore him four children. He left her when their last child was about four months old and married another woman. He said she was making him not able to save any money. He kept making babies…what did he expect.

Any way he went on with his new life with the christian woman he had married taking better care of her two children than he was taking care of his own children. I guess happily ever after was all he saw on horizon. However it was not long after…maybe a year when he got in trouble at work  He got fired from his job and attempted suicide. My point is you cannot expect to live a happy life by causing pain to others. What you give is what you will eventually receive.  So Live, Love, Forgive and be Happy.

Small Penis Competition

Did you know there is a Small Penis Competition? Oh yes there is. The Small Penis in Brooklyn Pageant  is scheduled to take place  at Brooklyn’s Kings County Saloon in Bushwick, on June 13. Competitors will strip down and display their genitals through underwear and swimsuits at the competition. The winner of the smallest penis will win a prize of $500, a crown and a sash. The organizers apparently are having difficulty finding contestants.  Surprised????

Three Kernels of Corn

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Three young men were once given three kernels of corn apiece by a wise old sage, who admonished them to go out into the world, and use the corn to bring themselves good fortune. The first young man put his three kernels of corn into a bowl of hot broth and ate them.

The second thought, I can do better than that, and he planted his three kernels of corn. Within a few months, he had three stalks of corn. He took the ears of corn from the stalks, boiled them, and had enough corn for three meals.

The third man said to himself, I can do better than that!
He also planted his three kernels of corn, but when his three stalks of corn produced, he stripped one of the stalks and replanted all of the seeds in it, gave the second stalk of corn to a sweet maiden, and ate the third.

His one full stalk’s worth of replanted corn kernels gave him 200 stalks of corn! And the kernels of these he continued to replant, setting aside only a bare minimum to eat. He eventually planted a hundred acres of corn. With his fortune, he not only won the hand of the sweet maiden but purchased the land owned by the sweet maiden’s father.
And he never hungered again.

Tension in Cleveland After Cop’s Acquittal

Emotions ran high in Cleveland after a judge found Officer Michael Brelo not guilty of voluntary manslaughter and felonious assault in the 2012 shooting deaths of unarmed Timothy Russell and Malissa Williams following a 22 mile car chase. Brelo and twelve other cops fired over 100 shots into the couple’s car after which Brelo got out of his car got in top of the  Williams car’s hood and fired about fifteen more shots.

Brelo’s acquittal is understandable, with so many cops firing and after so many bullets they might have already dead by the time he got on the hood. It is what Brelo told investigators that I find interesting. He reportedly said he thought he and his partner were in danger because he believed the couple in the car were shooting. He told investigators, and I quote “I’ve never been so afraid in my life. I thought my partner and I would be shot and thought we were going to be killed.”

This I find puzzling. You believe people inside a car who are armed and dangerous and are shooting at you and you climb unto the hood of the car ??  This defies all logic. He knew those people were unarmed.  Excessive use of force must stop.

Pastor’s Wife Defends Josh Duggar

A Texas pastor’s wife sparked controversy when she voiced her opinion that Josh Duggar who admitted to molesting five girls should be left alone to live his life.

Carrie Hurd said what Josh did, when she was a child it was called ‘playing doctor’.  She further suggested that the victims should also be held accountable.  Mrs. Hurd incidentally is the mother of eleven children.

Memorial Day

On this Memorial Day we honor those who lost their lives in service to their country. Our fallen heroes made the ultimate sacrifice. Sleep on mighty warriors. You are gone but not forgotten. Rest in Peace.

A Thought For Today

A lovely little girl was holding two apples with both hands.

Her mum came in and softly asked her little daughter with a smile: my sweetie, could you give your mum one of your two apples?

The girl looked up at her mum for some seconds, then she suddenly took a quick bite on one apple, and then quickly on the other.

The mum felt the smile on her face freeze. She tried hard not to reveal her disappointment.

Then the little girl handed one of her bitten apples to her mum,and said: mummy, here you are. This is the sweeter one.

No matter who you are, how experienced you are, and how knowledgeable you think you are, always delay judgement.  Give others the privilege to explain themselves.   What you see may not be the reality. Never conclude for others.

Which is why we should never only focus on the surface and judge others without understanding them first.

Those who like to pay the bill, do so not because they are loaded but because they value friendship above money.

Those who take the initiative at work, do so not because they are stupid but because they understand the concept of responsibility.

Those who apologizes first after a fight, do so not because they are wrong but because they value the people around them.

Those who are willing to help you, do so not because they owe you any thing but because they see you as a true friend.

Those who often text you, do so not because they have nothing better to do but because you are in their heart.

One day, all of us will get  separated  from each other; we will miss our conversations of everything & nothing; the dreams that we had. Days will pass by, months, years, until this contact becomes rare… One day our children will see our pictures and ask ‘Who are these people?’ And we will smile with invisible tears  because a heart is touched with a strong word and you will say: ‘IT WAS THEM THAT I HAD THE BEST DAYS OF MY LIFE WITH’. Send this to all your friends that you will never forget. Put this on the whatsapp of those who made you smile in any type of way. It might surprise you but look at how many will be sent back. Thank you for making me smile for sometime in my life.  Just say thank you if you agree, you don’t have to send this back to me.