Don’t be ashamed: It may seem strange but many women experience sense of shame that they are the victims of abuse. In their minds it is something that happen to other people not to them. Hence they find it difficult to accept and may go into denial mode.
Do not make excuses for your injuries: Some women will make excuses for their injuries rather than admit that they are victims of abuse. The stigma of being a battered woman make them feel less than and so makeup become their best friend. They develop the art of covering up the black eyes and the bruises. Many do not understand that the longer they make excuses for and cover up their injuries the longer they help to facilitate the abuse. People cannot help you unless they know that you need help.
Realize that you have a problem: Living in an abusive relationship is a serious problem. It is almost like living at the foot of an active volcano. Now and again it may give off signs of an eruption and if you don’t take heed one day it will actually erupt and the consequences may be devastating. The first step to solving a problem is admitting that you have one. An abusive partner is a serious problem.
It is not your fault: An abusive partner may make you feel that his inability to control his anger is your fault. He may hurt you and say to you, “You see what you made me do.” Over time you might start to believe that it is your action that causes his anger and lack of control. Just know that it is not your fault. You are the victim in the situation.
You have to end the silence:This is not going to be easy but you have to set aside your pride and think more about preserving your life. You have to end the silence, tell someone about what you are going through. Talk to trusted family members or a trusted friend about your abuse. Seek out a support group in your area. You have to talk about it so you can get help.