How can I tell if he is Grooming me for Abuse
In many abusive relationships the abuse doesn’t start right away. In fact when he is pursuing you he may be so charming that you feel you have won a prize. It is when he gets comfortable with you and he believes he has you hooked that he begins to show his true colors.
If he begins to have problem with you having a relationship with your former friends and even relatives, he may not have your best interest at heart. Abusers love to have their victims isolated. That way when the abuse begins, you have no one to turn to.
If he hits you and tell you he is sorry and it won’t happen again, don’t believe him. If he could not control his temper in that instance, what is to stop him from losing control again. Each time you forgive him, you give him more power over you and sad reality is that he is grooming you to accept abuse in the relationship.