The mistake many of us make is to expect someone to come into our lives and make us happy. The key to happiness is to realize that no owes us any obligation to make us happy. We must take control over our lives and do not rely too heavily on someone else for happiness. Often after a breakup people hold on to the hurt and pain of the failed relationship. Unhappiness becomes a way of life and there is no moving forward.
We have to understand that people will disappoint us, they will betray and hurt us. But we must refuse to let them take our joy. Promise yourself that you will choose happiness in spite of situations that are beyond your control. Trust God and know that he will not allow the person who cause you pain to live happily ever after while you live in misery.
Your mind is a powerful tool
and just like the body your mind needs food.
The thoughts that circulate
in your mind daily has the power
to either lift you up or pull you down.
It is therefore important for you
to fill your mind with positive thoughts.
Self love is important. In order for others to love you, you must first love yourself unconditionally. When you love yourself you set the stage for others to love you. You are also more likely to grasp the concept that you are deserving of love and you are less likely to allow others to treat you in a manner less than you deserve.
Believe in yourself,
And what you can be,
And not what others,
Think that you are,
Believe in your dreams,
And what you can achieve,
If you work towards your goal,
Believe in tomorrow,
And the hope that it brings,
With the dawn of each new day,
Believe in love,
And the one that you love,
The person you know him or her to be,
But the most important of all of these,
Is that you believe in you.
I want to trust you but my heart is so afraid,
You say you have changed,
But how can I be sure,
I want to believe you,
But I don’t want to have to re-live,
The heartache of the past.
Painful memories serves as a reminder,
Of the risks I have taken,
And the promises that have been broken.
I want to stay afloat,
Not suffocating in this love,
Drowning in my tears,
Knowing that your loyalty is not here.
The silence between them is profound
She yearns so much
for a hug from him
or just a gentle touch.
But he turns away and she feels frozen
by the coldness he displays.
Feelings of love unrequited
hits her like a mountain of waves.
She would do anything
if this relationship she could save.
His phone rings, he answers it and smiles,
“I am going to meet Sam for a drink,” he says
But of course she knows he lies.
“I know about her,” she says.
He looks at her and there is no surprise in his eyes.
He offers no ostentatious words of denial,
Unperturbed by his betrayal,
“Don’t wait up for me,” he says.
His words cut her like a knife,
Her heart is bleeding,
She feels like screaming,
But she is numbed by his indifference.
An apology, or even a denial,
Anything would have been better
than his cold indifference.
Don’t put yourself down.
Never believe that you are not
good enough or educated enough
to make it. Nothing can stop you
if you are determined to succeed.
Let gratitude be the pillow
upon which you kneel to say
your nightly prayer and let
faith be the bridge you build
to overcome evil and welcome
good. ~Maya Angelo
Forgiveness is the greatest gift
you can give yourself. Free your
mind from anger and resentment
and learn to forgive.