Parenting

Mother Beats Child for Posting Inappropriate Photos on Facebook

This video of a Trinidadian mother beating her twelve-year-old daughter went viral. It got divided reactions. Some thought the beating was well deserved others saw it as child abuse. I have watched this video a few times myself and have formed my opinion based on what I saw.

The child in question did not strike me as one that was overly disrespectful, the beating went for what I consider as way too long and at no time did she get aggressive or try to disrespect her mother. She did not strike me as a bad child. The things children see impact greatly on the things they in turn do. They see all these stars posing like strippers and people glorify them and they think maybe I can look that good too.

The mother said she spoke to the child several times about her behavior and that is sometimes the error that parents make. First of all let me clarify cursing a child is not talking to that child and instead of talking to the child it is better to talk with the child in that way actual dialogue takes place between you and the child. Another point I want to make is if you are going to give a child a computer and internet access you must be prepared to monitor what that child is doing. If the child has a Facebook page you need to have a Facebook page as well so you can monitor what is going on.

This mother is clearly concerned about her daughter getting pregnant at an early age but if she believes beating the crap out of her daughter is going to prevent that she is sadly mistaken. What she can do is use the internet to her advantage. Show her daughter videos of teenagers struggling to raise children on their own because they made the wrong choices. Education and not fear is what is going to make a difference.

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Sterling’s Fall From Grace

My first reaction when I heard about Donald Sterling’s racist comments was – well this appears to be a private conversation between him and his girlfriend; however when I listened to the recorded conversation in its entirety I understood why everyone was so upset.

As someone who is of African descent myself I found that the manner in which Sterling spoke about black people was both insulting and condescending. Here is a man who is still living in the plantation era; one who still believe that whites are superior to blacks and because of this superiority white and blacks cannot publicly be friends.

It is interesting to note that Sterling does not see himself as being racist. In his mind history has branded blacks as minorities and it will remain that way forever; they are not to be associated with in public. Sterling is an educated man but clearly education is no cure for stupidity.

Skin color does not define a man. It does not make you any better than the other person. We are all made up the same way there is no difference! Sadly there are people like Sterling still around and while we cannot change the way they feel we can stand together and refuse to support racism or anyone who is racist.

Life and Living

Student Suspended for Asking Miss America to Prom

A Pennsylvania teen was given  a three-day  indoor suspension for asking Miss America to Prom at a school assembly. According to reports Patrick Farves carrying a plastic flower approached Nina Davuluri, Miss America 2014 and asked her to his prom. His action brought laughter and cheers from other students.

The Authorities however were not amused. Learning of Farves intention to ask Miss America to Prom, they had instructed him not to do so. Farves did not adhere and went ahead and asked her anyway.

From my standpoint it was a very brave move on his part. He knew there was a chance that he would get turned down and he was also aware of the possibility of him getting punished for actions but he did it anyway. Bravo to him.

Not everyone believe the situation warranted the punishment and that includes Nina Davulari who suggested that the school reconsider the decision to suspend the student.

Life and Living

Good Friday

He came and lived among men and died for our sins.

jesus on the cross
 
On this another Good Friday we commemorate the death of Jesus on the cross. For God so loved the world that He sent us His only son.  Jesus came and lived among men.  He made the deaf to hear and the blind He made to see.  To the crippled man He said “Take up your bed and walk. He healed the sick, He raised the dead and He turned water into wine.  But more than that, much more than that, He died for our sins.
 
In the Garden of Gethsemane Judas betrayed Him.  Just as He prophesied Peter denied Him thrice.   When asked by Pilate whom should he release Jesus or Barabbas, the crowd said ” Release to us Barabbas and when he asked them what he should do with Jesus, they shouted “Crucify Him.”   Let us not forget how much He suffered; let us not forget His pain.
 
We are reminded of his suffering in this song, O Sacred Head Surrounded.   The lyrics were translated from the text of St. Bernard of Clairvaux  by Henry Williams Baker.

O Sacred Head, surrounded
by crown of piercing thorn!
O bleeding Head, so wounded,
reviled and put to scorn!
Our sins have marred the glory
of Thy most Holy Face,
yet angel hosts adore Thee
and tremble as they gaze

I see Thy strength and vigor
all fading in the strife,
and death with cruel rigor,
bereaving Thee of life;
O agony and dying!
O love to sinners free!
Jesus, all grace supplying,
O turn Thy face on me.

In this Thy bitter passion,
Good Shepherd, think of me
with Thy most sweet compassion,
unworthy though I be:
beneath Thy cross abiding
for ever would I rest,
in Thy dear love confiding,
and with Thy presence blest.

But death too is my ending;
In that dread hour of need,
My friendless cause befriending,
Lord, to my rescue speed:
Thyself, O Jesus, trace me,
Right passage to the grave,
And from Thy cross embrace me,
With arms outstretched to save.

Life and Living

Where is the Love and Equality

We see it all around us, everywhere we turn there are signs of violence and abuse. It is in our homes, in the streets, in our schools, it is even in the churches. Often times it is the person who has earned our trust who turns out to be the abuser. Many of these people hide behind their titles and professions to prey on the innocent’

It is ironic, everyone enters this world a baby, seemingly innocent and in need of nurturing. What make some grow up to be such monsters while others are not? Was it something in their genes, lying there dormant waiting for the right moment to burst forth? Or is it something learned from society, from the environment in which these people grew up?

Many will quickly point out that kids that come from the ghetto are more likely to commit crime. They try to convince you that crime is directly linked to poverty. So the kids from the ghetto are constantly watched, nothing they do go unnoticed and they are always in the news. The man in the jacket and tie who preys on the little girls and the little boys goes unnoticed, no one is watching him. No one expects him to commit such a crime!

Society expect a course of action from one group of people and a different set of actions from another. They refuse to accept the fact that there is good and bad in every single group in society. It is all about people making choices. People have a choice of doing what is right and what is wrong, some choose to do good while others choose to do bad things. The person from the ghetto can choose to be a pedophile, the person from up town in jacket and tie can choose to be a pedophile. Who is likely to be caught first? My guess is that it is going to be the one from the ghetto, after all he is the one who is expected to commit crimes. The point I am trying to make is people will commit crimes no matter from what background they may come from. People need to choose to make the right choices.