How Much Is Too Much
Last night I overhear a little girl talking to her friend on the bus. She was saying how much she wanted to go to sleep over camp so she could take pictures to post on Facebook and Instagram. What struck me was not the fact that she wanted to do this but rather how earnest she seemed about it as it was the most import thing in the world. I had to smile.
On deeper reflection I couldn’t help thinking that there are so many adults who like this little girl posting on Facebook and Instagram is a very serious matter. They eat, live, sleep and breathe for the moment they post something and get the likes and comments. For some it is almost like an obsession a fix to get them through the day. The trouble is these people often put too much of their lives on public display. While others encourage them (Many of whom ironically, keep their own lives private) it is not necessarily a good thing.
Identity theft is a major problem and just because it hasn’t happened to you yet doesn’t mean it can’t happen. People don’t have to know where you shop what you bought and what expensive gifts you got. Don’t broadcast to the world when we you going on vacation where you are going and how long you will be staying. Robbers love to know all this information. Remember if you do not enable your privacy settings it means everyone can see all of what you post. Sharing does not mean the world has to know everything about you!
Face book has changed their privacy settings once more! Due to the new, “graph app” anyone on face book (including other countries) can see your pictures, likes, & comments. The next 2 weeks I will be posting this, and please once you have done it please post DONE!!! Those of you who do not keep my information from going…… out to the public, I will have to DELETE YOU! I want to stay PRIVATELY connected with you. I post shots of family that I don’t want strangers to have access to! This happens when friends click “like” or “comment”…automatically, their friends would see our posts, too. Unfortunately, we cannot change this setting by ourselves because Face book configured it that way. PLEASE place your mouse over my name above (DO NOT CLICK), a window will appear, now move the mouse on “FRIENDS” (also without clicking), then down to “settings”, click here and a list will appear. REMOVE the CHECK on “LIFE EVENTS and “COMMENTS & LIKES”. By doing this, my activity among my friends and family will no longer become public. Now, copy & paste this on your wall. Once I see this posted on your page, I will do the same. Thank You.
This is one of the myths that appears on Facebook from time to time. I think one of the reason I don’t fall for this is that I don’t like being told what to do especially when that request comes with a threat. Another reason is, all Face book account come with a privacy setting for a reason; it gives you the power to determine who sees your posts.
Keep in mind the fact that nothing about Face book is private. If there are things that you do not want people to know or pics you don’t want people to see do not put it on Face book period! Not all your Face book friends may actually be your friend, so unless you have just a couple of trusted friends in your circle things will get around. Besides if it actually worked like that, do you think it a good idea to depend on others to keep the things you post private? Think about it.
I got this photograph from Facebook, as the caption says: First you press LIKE then in the comment section write the number 5 and see – I think that should be – what happens. To date it has gotten over two million likes. It is unbelievable, the number of people who fell for this. What is even more mind-boggling is that up to a few minutes ago people were still writing 5. Yes there are people among us who actually thought clicking Like and writing 5 will have some effect on the image. It makes you wonder if people don’t really think. Some of the comments were very amusing, more entertaining than the pic.
In a relationship don’t be a user and never allow yourself to be used by anyone. If you are not genuinely in love with a person do not pretend that you are because the person you are with is very good at taking care of your financial needs. Sometimes people pretend they are in love and get married simply to get a Green Card and once they achieve that they dump the person and move on with someone else.
These people are users and both sexes are guilty of this at one time or another. I remember this good friend of mine who met this guy. Oh he was handsome and charming, not that well off financially but at the time that was not an issue. She was working and he was just entering college. For the first two years of college she was his main financial support, books, clothes, tuition, she was there for him and things were great between them. In his final year he began to withdraw, he stopped calling, stopped coming home on weekends and by the time he graduated he was gone completely from her life. He didn’t need her anymore!
This is only one example. There are men who have sent who have sent there partners through college only to have them dump them upon graduation. In relationships one has to be very careful. Supporting your partner is good but you need to look out for yourself as well. If he or she is going to college and you have not gone and is not in a job where you are financially secure, you might need to rethink your own future and own educational level. College and degrees change a lot of people. The moment some people get a degree they think they are better than you. Remember now I said some, because not everyone is like that.
They say love is blind so it is important that you do not become blinded by love for anyone that you are unable to see that someone is using you. Make sure the person you invest your time and money on is genuinely interested in you. Not many people handle rejection well, most people find it difficult to deal with. Make sure you are not one of those persons who invest heavily in your relationship and end up being rejected. Keep the relationship healthy, don’t be a user and don’t allow yourself to be used!
Photographs on the Internet
Teenagers often fall victims to peer pressure and do stupid things that sometimes cause serious repercussions. Time and time again pictures of young girls in uncompromising positions have been plastered all over the internet. One would think that these girls would learn from the past mistakes of others, but surprisingly they keep making the same mistakes.
Most of the times these were private photographs taken by their boyfriend or sent to their boyfriends. Although in many of these cases it is not a situation where these girls were posing for money or for these photographs to get out there for the whole world to see, but this is what happens. The pictures hit the internet and everything that they did in private is now on display for the world to see.
Teenage girls need to understand the consequences of taking nude photographs. Number one you should not be allowing anyone to photograph you in the nude. Secondly if you take these photographs of yourself,it should be for your eyes only. Do not send anyone photographs which might be a cause for embarrassment. No not trust anyone that much because if these photographs get into the wrong hands you have no control over where they might show up.
Something of this nature happened yesterday. Nude photographs of some young girls from a very small Caribbean island were published on Facebook what was even more disturbing was the fact that these girls name were published underneath the photographs. Now we are talking about a very small country with a population of less than 35,000 people. It means that most of these people know each other. So can you image your embarrassment as a parent when you discover that your daughter happens to be one of the girls involved. In such a small population the impact is much greater.
By this morning the pictures were taken down, but the harm has already been done. In just a few more weeks schools will reopen. It is going to be embarrassing for these girls, their parents and the schools they are identified with. Parents warn you your daughters about allowing themselves to become victims of situations like this.
Women in general need to be careful about photographs they pose for whether it be for their boyfriends or husbands. Trust is good but never be too trusting. Some people can be very revengeful and will do things just to get back at you. A relationship goes bad, you leave him and bam! your photos are out there on the internet for the world to see. I have seen it happen. It has happened time and time again and women still keep doing it. Listen up ladies stop acting naive. It is a harsh world out there so stop doing things that you know is likely to cause you embarrassment. Live life, Love, but in all that you do RESPECT yourself!